The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/Key_Wrongdoer2330 on 2025-04-06 00:02:31.
I f (22) was friends w this guy (25, brain fully developed btw). He was telling me about his work crush and he said “she has the perfect body and her face isn’t that bad”. I work with him so i know he has never spoken to this girl. This girl two days later becomes friends w me and I find out she has a bf. So I tell my friend cause I thought it would save him the embarrassment of trying to ask out a taken woman. Then he texts me and says he’s really disappointed and wished he didn’t tell me he had a crush on her. because he didn’t want to know she had a bf. He had told me he was going to ask her out, so he would’ve found out eventually anyway. And this makes me upset cause why are you so upset when you never spoke to this girl and we’ve only worked with her for 3 days. She also rarely talks at work so it’s not like he could like her personality from that. And now i’m friends with her and I actually like her a lot so it makes me even more upset that he would depersonalize her like that. I responded “you don’t know her, how could you ever care” I then realized that was a bit mean so i was like “it’s ok, i’m sure you’ll find someone eventually”. He proceeds to ignore me for two days so i txt him and ask if we were still on for hanging out tomorrow since we said we would before that text. He responds “no” so i tried to call him so we could talk and he declines. I texted him and he told me he was upset because of the comment. I explained that, as he knows since I have told him, i have been used for my body multiple times by men who don’t care about my personality. So when he made that comment about her body it upset me. He responded “Stop texting me” and i was confused and asked if he was serious?! he said “stop texting its bothering me”. And now I’m confused cause that feels like a crazy reaction in response to my text. I know it wasn’t nice but to stop being friends with me all together?!