Am I the asshole for wanting my ex husband to pay me what he agreed upon paying before he gets married and buys a new house? I’m 37 f and my ex husband is 37 m. We got divorced in 2021 and both have new life’s. He is marrying the woman he cheated on me with and I am very happy for them. Honestly it’s been a huge weight off my back because the man is verbally and emotionally abusive. He continued it after our divorce and basically until I got a boyfriend myself. Anyways in our divorce we agreed he would pay half my student loans because I went to school while we were married while I was a stay at home mom. The total is ballpark $40k. So he owes me $20k. He’s getting ready to get married again in the next few months and buy a new house but yet still owes me the $20k. I had a conversation with him and he told me I’m being selfish and being ridiculous for asking for the money that he’ll pay me when he can pay me. He’s also in the last year bought over $90k worth of vehicles. On top of that he has told our girls (mind you we have two kids together)that all of the money that I have is his, but I have a full-time career. Not sure if I’m providing enough context and can provide more, but am I the asshole for wanting him to pay me the money that he owes me before he gets married and starts this new life?
Edit: Yes, it is written in our divorce agreement. I do plan on taking him back to court soon. Just trying to decide if paying lawyer fees are worth it for 20k when an attorney costs about 10k.