We had a substitute teacher today, and while taking attendance, she asked if she was pronouncing my name correctly. I told her she could pronounce it however she wanted—not to be rude, but because I genuinely don’t know how to say it myself. I have an ethnic name, but no one, not even my family, calls me by it. I was given an alias since I was three years old. Despite that, I was called disrespectful and sent out of class. 🫡
Edit to clarify:
I did tell her my alias. Conversation went like
Sub : "Name. Is that how you pronounce it?"
Me: "Yes. You can pronounce it however you want."
Sub: "Ok. How do you pronounce it?"
Me: "I'm not sure. I don't go by that name and no one in my class calls me by it either."
Sub: "What?"
Me: "I go by [Alias]. "
Sub: "But what's on the paper is [ N A M E]. "
silence..
Sub: "You can leave for being disrespectful."
Edit 2:
I only included the part where she could pronounce it however BECAUSE she was going around, asking anyone with a difficult to pronounce name how to pronounce it. I said it to be accommodating. But I can see how it could come off as otherwise.