The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/Same_Drama_7346 on 2025-04-03 19:00:16.
This weekend I (20F) and two of my friends were supposed to be going out of town to celebrate my 21st birthday. Since I’m not a huge drinker we decided to go to a concert instead. For more context me and the two friends all work for the same hospitality group and we made reservations at only restaurants that were owned by the same company, but they book up really quickly for weekends and are difficult to get into as a walk in. Monday night the friend that had agreed to drive texted me asking if I would be able to leave at 9am and I said I would not since I have class that ends at 9:50 that day. This is met with a response saying that I would then have to drive separately. Which I had no intention of doing simply because of the mileage. (I drove us to our spring break trip which was 1600 miles round trip) i asked why the time of departure couldn’t be delayed and it was because the friend who was driving had planned a meeting at headquarters of the company we work for in hopes of an internship and they needed to be there before 2 that afternoon. Upon hearing this I said maybe it’s best I sit this trip out since I won’t be able to drive separately nor did I want my friend to miss out on this opportunity since it was important to them. I had no problem staying home. But after I said that my friend started telling me how all I do is judge her and be negative towards everything she does and how inconvenient this is with the trip being on my birthday weekend but she really needs the internship and how she thinks it’s time for us to go separate ways. In none of my messages to her was I being rude or trying to judge her for anything but her responding that way threw me off so I just told her I agree and left it at that. After I sold the concert tickets and canceled all the reservations. If someone who I thought was my friend decided to end a friendship of 6 years because of me letting them continue with a trip I had planned then I can only help by getting rid of all distraction so they can fully focus on the meeting. So AITA for doing all of that or should I have allowed them to continue with the plan that had been set for this trip?