The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/rainman50 on 2025-04-03 18:17:25.
I’m an immigrant professional man, I was married to an American woman for 8 years, things started out really well then we started to drift away, I was there for her when she was going to graduate school, took cash advances on my credit cards and supported her emotionally and financially. Keep in mind that she makes good money but she can’t manage her finances, she had filed for bankruptcy before I met her, we managed to get a house and cars based on my good credit. When it came the time for me to take a very important and very difficult professional exam, she felt like I wasn’t paying enough attention to her and started cheating with one of her friends’ husband! She left her email open one day and I saw the gruesome email exchange (I was already suspecting something)! Not only that but she was also pursuing two other men one of them was also married! I let her keep the house which we didn’t have tons of equity in it but I did pay half the mortgage on it for 5 years. However, I insisted we split her retirement account for which my half amounted to about 15k before tax. With that being said, I got my citizenship relatively fast thanks to that woman, I could’ve gotten it through employment but that would’ve been a longer more complicated route. This woman scarred me for life, she told me before marriage that she wanted children and that turned out to be a lie, I have struggled to maintain relationships ever since divorce. I got a word recently that she filed for a second bankruptcy. With all the stuff currently going on with immigration I keep thinking that I owe her even though she dragged me through hell. I keep thinking about paying her back the 15k after accounting for inflation. Keep in mind that she’s a nurse practitioner and makes excellent money possibly more than me. What do you think the correct course of action would be? There’s a good chance if I give her that money that she will blow it up on dumb stuff.