AmITheAsshole

I mean, I think it was certainly in bad taste and a bit crass. Not something I'd expect to be banned over. But honestly it's not even the mention of genitals as such, it's more the idea of not standing the sight of your own. While probably a joke, it's also a bit TMI. I suppose I could understand someone feeling uncomfortable about it and if that's something the server wants to curtail, I suppose they are free to.

I do not think you were banned due to not wanting to date men, but rather giving too much information unwanted about how you view your genitals.

Eh, it's impossible to be certain.

If the wording of it was the same as here, then it's a matter of people needing to grow up.

The subject matter of your own dislike of your body part/s is relevant to dating, and since the suggestion you date a man was in play, explaining that it isn't an option is perfectly appropriate.

You say that the suggestion was done as an attempt at humor, so making your explanation an attempt as well is also appropriate.

So, it really comes down to how you said it.

The way you said it here is very matter-of-fact, so it would be a stretch to assume that's meant to be funny, which makes me think you said it differently. And it could be phrased in a way that's very inappropriate in any setting. It could be phrased in a homophobic way, though I doubt that was your intent based on what you're saying here.

Like, if you said something along the lines of "hey, I don't even like looking at my own dick, why would I want another one in the mix?", that's within normal humor limits. If you said something like "even my own dick is gross, I don't want to see your scabby dick, fuck off", that could be an attempt at humor, but it would fall flat 99% of the time, and anywhere it did work would likely not be a pleasant place.

But, no, assuming you didn't phrase it horribly, and there weren't rules against discussion of genitals, then a ban would be out of line, unless it was a one day ban combined with an attempt to contact you and sort out what the limits are. Temp bans are a useful tool in cases where a mod needs time to clarify a misunderstanding and prevent things going crazy.

Making people uncomfortable isn't a good reasoning for a ban unless the behavior was against established policy that the user could access easily. Even then, it should still be a second or third option in line. It sucks to say it, but a lot of people are oversensitive about some things. Prudishness about genitalia is one of those things that are often blown up out of reasonable ranges.