No Stupid Questions

Yes and I'm fucking exhausted by it to be honest.

I work in social services, I do street outreach, housing, peer mentorship, sobriety mentorship, life coaching, youth mentorship...

One of the biggest principles is that we must see past the apparent outward identity which is only skin deep so to speak

And yet the moment you take everybody for who they are, without delivering or shoe horning in the identity, it is demanded that you immediately recognize them based on their outward appearances only

It is literally people demanding that you continually evaluate people on race and culture and language and everything along those lines, while simultaneously demanding that you live virtuously and conduct yourself in a spirit of total equality

People are fucking morons. And the more people talk about virtue, the less virtuous they are.

I go to bus shelters every single fucking night for the last 5 years and drop off water and food and clothes, and I've never said a mother fucking word to anybody that I do it...

Yet the very same people that preach in the boardrooms and the conferences and the year-end sessions, are never seen at any protests, they're never seen volunteering, they are never seen out doing good work. They are always seen accepting award, standing in front of news cameras, proclaiming virtues on social media, and literally doing absolutely nothing to change the world in a positive way

So yeah I'm sick to death of black and white

I never want to hear about the color of anybody's skin tone again for the rest of my life unless it is specifically germane and those opportunities will be one in 10 trillion

Because to me personally this kinda feels like America is still stuck in those slavery/segregation times

Yes. American culture is very much based on social hierarchies, and slavery created a very easy, color-coded social hierarchy. So it's hard to get rid of because a lot of people are invested in it - whether they admit it or not.

Americans (except for the most liberal) tend to look at race as a biological reality and regard anyone saying race isn't science as woke extremism. Generally when science conflicts with common/traditional sense in America, common sense wins. The only reason quantum physics isn't banned from schools yet is because probably only about 10% of Americans know the first thing about quantum physics.

Americans also regard a wide variety of racial discrimination - such as in dating (including who you allow your kids to date), or where you live, or where you send your kids to school, as "not racist". This is considered not racist because the goal isn't to harm racial minorities, but rather you're just doing it to protect your place in the social hierarchy. The race-based social hierarchy. And if this harms minorities, well it's not like it's your fault right?

And if you dare try to suggest that the above is racist, people will get very angry at you and do things like elect Trump.

So yeah, racism is still very prevalent in the US.

racism is an accepted reality in the US. racism is a denied reality in Europe.

America is still very much racist. The Trump regime is particularly racist. They seek to codify their unspoken biases.

Didn't you already post about this?

TL;DR

its not the labels that cause the divide. it's the divide (the racism built into the economy and laws and communities) that causes the trauma that requires us to heal within our sub-communities. But the sub-communities are not originally homogenous; i.e. sometimes the only thing sub-communities have in common is the label/slur that "Whites" assigned us and the trauma that goes with that.

Also, for anyone who's actually lived in the US, you know we strenuously avoid using labels about someone when talking TO that person. There are very strict social rules for which labels to use when/where/with whom. Some people break those rules, then republicans elect them as president. FYI in case its not obvious, OVER HALF of US people hate Trump (and Elon). Why are they in power, you ask? Search "usa electoral system minority rule"

I appreciate you bringing this uncertainty to the community and open yourself for discussion. I understand how it can be upsetting or feel dissonant to see US people who sometimes/often brag of being the standard for freedom and equality, but still use divisive-sounding language. And worse yet, for the outward face of the US to become even more of an international symbol for fascism and oppression than ever.

many people outside the US, and even people inside the US, get confused by seeing us talk a lot about Black, White, Asian, Latinx (historically called 'Latino' or 'Hispanic'), Indigenous. They often think the labels themselves actually caused divides in US. I've heard this interpretation often from young people, mostly Gen Z. This also used to be a part of the "mainstream" (aka white liberals') mindset in the 1980s/1990s in the US. I'm not white nor black and I also believed that to some level back then.

We still are always looking for new names/terms to unite with each other regardless of sub-groups. That's how we get terms like BIPoC (Black, Indigenous, People of Color) which definitely is inconvenient without abbreviation.

Sociological research actually showed that US society was and still is divided even when we don't use the labels. Its actually our laws, our economic practices, and "certain" groups' superiority/inferiority mindset (psychological complex) that divide US people.

The laws, for example, sometimes create a lot of extra steps to register to vote. And when those extra steps are analyzed, it turns out it makes voting extra difficult for poor people (like that our voting days are on Tuesday, a work day, so poor people can't always get a day off, then can't vote). In many areas of US, the low income group is mostly one or two races, like Black and Latinx. So politicians who hate those groups can secretly make it hard for them to vote by creating voting obstacles that affect only poor people.

The economic system helps to keep people poor by creating barriers for getting house loans or starting businesses. The "Red Lining" system used to categorize land/houses in Black neighborhoods as unlikely to repay loans, so people from there (Black people) or people trying to buy homes there were not given loans. Even if banks wanted to loan to the person, the Gov't refused to give the bank insurance. But what actually determines the ability to repay a loan? Income or assets, right? But income was usually ignored and Black people were assumed to have no assets worth money.

As for the people, when I say "superiority/inferiority mindset", I mean that certain US pink-skin straight neurotypical people have become accustomed to feeling comfortable in a very specific way, and accustomed to not being criticized for that refusal to change, and refusal to bring other races into their lives and into their comfort zone. Research on this area found that when we don't discuss race openly with some type of labels, children would observe and absorb parents'/adults' implicit feelings of discomfort around other races, even if their parents were civil rights believers/activists. Then while growing up, the child believes themselves to be "non-racist" (because of the thinking "my parents/role-models were non-racist!") while still having this discomfort. If the person realized they had this subconscious conflict and discusses it with friends of other races and in a mindset of humbleness and desire to learn, they could usually manage the discomfort and be an anti-racist (different from non-racist) without conflicted identity. However, if the person doesn't recognize the internal conflict and eventually expresses their discomfort emotionally directed at people of other races, they would predictably face backlash. Then because they identify themselves as a non-racist, they believe the backlash was unfair and feel that they have become the victim of "political correctness" or "the woke agenda". This scenario is EXTREMELY common in the US and, I would bet, an analogous one is common in most western countries. Particularly regarding immigrants, refugees, Roma people, or Jews.

I call the group "certain US pink-skin straight neurotypical people (PSSNTP)" because those of us with other skin color (BIPoC), other neurotypes, other sexuality have not ever had the opportunity to become that level of comfortable in the context of the entire US society that includes "straight white" people. BIPoC and LGBTQ are able to be comfortable in sub-groups that share our uncomfortable experiences. We call those groups Black, Gay, Asian, Pacific Islander, Neurodivergent, etc because other terms are more awkward/inconvenient, but also due to having bad experiences being called by those names or called more malicious synonyms, and otherwise treated badly by the PSSNTP and those bad experiences unite us in our sub-groups. Yes, some non-white, non-straight, non-neurotypical have also oppressed others. They were never the majority of oppressors, and they were hoping to hide the non-majority aspects of their identity by "going with the flow". For what it's worth, Empathy is also a minority identity characteristic among USA straight males, when it reaches the level of choosing discomfort for oneself in order to improve life for others.

Lastly, about "White"ness. As you mentioned, there are no "races" in the human genome except the human race. As far as I know, the term "white" referring to caucasian people was first spread widely during North American (NA) slavery in order to unite poor caucasians (British & other Europeans in debt slavery as "indentured") in NA with rich caucasians (mostly british aristocratic slave-owners) in order to motivate the poor to report African slaves who had escaped. They also motivated the poor caucasians to side with rich by hiring them as a slave patrol unit, with higher salary etc. This is the origin of the entire concept of Police (for the whole Earth, as far as I know) as an enforcement unit under civilian authorities and separate from military.

• Southern Slave Patrols as a Transitional Police Type | Office of Justice Programs - ojp(dot)gov - https://archive.ph/OSLBv

• The Invention of the Police | The New Yorker - https://archive.ph/CkfpI

Even Police themselves admit it

• National Law Enforcement Officers Memorial Fund - Slave Patrols: An Early Form of American Policing - https://archive.ph/5cXfv

So, good for you, but the particular dynamics of being a colonial country that had a massive portion of its economy based on race-based slavery has resulted in an approach to diversity that has much deeper roots and has been wrestling with hard issues for much longer than Germany has, and Germany's own record with dealing with identifiable minorities in the last hundred years has, shall we say, not always been great.

Many European countries are only now hitting levels of diversity America had fifty years ago, and America has been made of statistically significant communities with distinctive origins for hundreds of years, and this in a colonizing country where there is no historically continuous monoculture. Historically, people tend to become dicks to the "Other" among them when faced with hardship, and much of American history reflects that sort of thing, but also its aftermath and attempts to heal.

Diverse and defiantly distinctive communities formed and persisted because that was how people got by and found support and could make their way, admittedly often because opportunities to assimilate, into whatever soup of dimly remembered pan-European customs that passes for a privileged culture here, were intentionally blocked. Yet even if the reasons for them are shameful, they are real and important, and the American dialogue on race simply cannot be color-blind even when well-meaning. Instead, it has to be a dance, where people of goodwill celebrate both differences and similarities and do not set groups above one another but also do not pretend they don't exist.

I wish more Americans would understand that our approach rarely translates well, and for fuck's sake I wish we had fewer people who were stuck in the bad old days where reconciliation and healing were very much not priorities. That said, I also wish that people from countries with a very different cultural and historical experience would not assume that their countries have shit figured out, when a lot of it simply boils down to "we don’t have many people with darker skin shades here."

I know that there was slavery and segregation in America based on exactly this in the past but this is over

It is not...

There's still a lot of racial bias in housing, even by name before the landlord/realtor meets the potential client.

its just not done with the explicit approval of the government, however that is unfortunately likely to change soon.

Even after the civil rights movement, all the Republicans and a lot of the Dems opposed integration. And we're still paying for it.

It happened for so long, at all levels of society, that it is still affecting us today. It has shaped the cities we currently live in. It has shaped our language. It has shaped our laws.

The first girl Black girl to go to a school that was all white is only 71 years old. And that was barely the start of the end of segregation.

A bad example, because I'm only American, but anyone in the European Union could move anywhere in the European Union. Some places just have depressing weather, or are very isolated. But it would still take a great effort for the people who even want to move to actually move.

am I the only one.....

No, you never are.

If you ever see little kids with different skin tones playing together, they are clearly not bothered by skin color, and it has no bearing on their play. The racism in America is completely learned. It is not natural. Sometimes consciously, but many times unconsciously.

Loosely similar is how men in most places are fine walking around alone at night. While women consciously try to move in groups, even during the daytime. Many men have no idea how different it is for many women.