Is it normal for people to regret what they said on here? Because I tend not to change my mind from downvotes and dumb responses. I do block people though
this post was submitted on 09 Mar 2025
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I don’t want to deal with arguing especially since half the responses clearly only read the first sentence of my comment. I don’t have the energy for it. So I’m on an instance with downvotes disabled and rarely check my inbox.
If people like my contribution they can upvote, if they don’t like it they can downvote or argue back, but I don’t have the energy to give to that, so I probably won’t see it.
Downvotes sometimes make me want to clarify what I wrote on the assumption that it got misinterpreted.
Has that ever worked for you?
I do it a lot and can't think of a single time it worked.
I've seen a number of comments with a visible edit that have an even split between down and up votes. I can only assume the edit worked. Not like votes mean anything on Lemmy. It's kinda nice not having the overall "karma" visible at all times.
Looking through some of my controversial comments, it seems like it worked maybe 1/3 - 1/2 of the time?
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My thought was more "which of the things I wrote triggered such a reaction?" I'm often surprised.
I mean well, and I want to have hope for the future, but I'm depressed and have untreated ADHD and a desperate need for therapy, and I do worry that I'm letting all that influence how I talk to strangers online.
I'm probably too harsh sometimes, or not harsh enough, or dumb, or stupid, etc, more often than I'd like.
So yeah, I generally regret or worry over everything I say to everyone at some point or another. I suck xD But I'm too lonely to switch off and not talk to anyone entirely, so here we are.
My own experience with this was posting a shower thoughts thread while quite inebriated, forgetting I'd done it then waking up with a fairly full inbox so nothing controversial or argumentative.
My experience is that I reply to a lot of things, and post very few, and in no case do I have even a vague notion about how many comments what I write will generate. I can guess the vector magnitude of up/down votes, but never the amount of interaction, where people take time to reply.
Absolutely, it is only human to make mistakes. Of course there are time where someone gives a stupid reply but there are also times where that is not the case. If it were the assumption would be that I am right about everything, which is asinine
I I do actually second thought what I said. As I can be as wrong as any. And if I'm wrong I'm ought to change my mind.
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Normally people just hardcore virtue signaling.
Often followed by, "I said that?"
Then you read your original comment and, no, you didn't say that; someone's just trying to gaslight you or they're straw manning.
Or they keep explaining what you already said because they don't understand nuance or context.
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If your in for a wild ride, you can post something like "Steam sucks", or ask anything about "Hexbear". If you just want positive attention, go with "What's the best distro for.....?"
Steam does suck though? It's hard to use, and most things are better boiled/blanched or fried.
Looks like we have a noob that wouldn't survive 10 minutes in a kitchen lobby here. Everybody serious knows that cooking with steam preserves nutrients, enhances flavor, and retains the natural texture of food.
Seriously. This punk thinks he can have any form of serious power without steam. What a chump
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If you just want positive attention, go with “What’s the best distro for…?”
Clearly the best distro is Windows 10!
[Insert angry rant about Windows]
Got me.
Lmao yeah sometimes. Since I mostly shitpost I just assume that the posts have had the intended effect of either making people laugh or working them up a little about something they care about. Just enough to make them share some stuff they're really passionate about. I like hearing people's unfiltered opinions.
O, i know the feeling
True dat mate.
it amazes me with what gets the most attention.
The biggest responses I've ever gotten by far have all been asking for alternatives to popular tech. 😏
on Lemmy that's just karma farming.
Usually there's enough context and it's recent enough I sort of remember. I haven't had a lot of ancient replies here, but Reddit was great for that, and that's exactly what I would think. What the hell are they talking about? What was really surreal was rereading what I wrote and vaguely remembering it, but sometimes the wording being a bit different than what I might say now. Not necessarily the point, just how I said it, as people do change with age. I don't regret anything I've every said though, it's why I've left my Reddit account alone, that plus it would probably be undeleted anyway and I've moved on.
Yeah, I was thinking more about seeing the count: my client shows the inbox unread count at the bottom. 4 is not unusual, but when I see over 12, much less 24, my first thought is: "oh, shit. What did I say??"
Once I open the inbox, it becomes clear pretty quickly, that's true.
Did you criticize the left?