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I agree with you on how core emoji reactions are. ... It's clear I'm going to have to settle in some respect.

So, in thinking about this in more concrete terms (as opposed to vague dissatisfaction), I suspect what we really want is a blogging platform with robust authenticated reader interaction tools.

The issue with AP, and therefore most of these servers, is that (a) it's expected to be public by default (the privacy point you mention), but almost more fundamentally (b) they're aggregators. People either to a bunch of people and get a feed of a bunch of posts by different people (Mastodon/X); or they join a community and see a bunch of posts by different people (Lemmy/Reddit).

I think what we want is blogging software, with an endless stream of content posted by a single user, but with reactions and threaded conversations per post. I've been thinking how this could be achieved on various AP platforms, but while you can almost get there with groups/channels/communities, the sticking point is that they are all ultimately designed around any member being able to post top-level content. I haven't seen any system yet that (easily) allows restricting posting by individual accounts.

I need to look at pump.io clients, because I think pump.io started as more of a blogging protocol. And the more I think about it, the more I believe a private blogo is a better foundational model.

Is federation or similar mandatory for you?

No. In fact, I suspect it may work against the privacy requirement. I expect that, even if one of the federated servers met all of the requirements, federation would have to be disabled to prevent leakage. Although, at least one server supports authenticated pull (one of the Misskey forks), I'm guessing it's not likely that federation will be needed.

As in, do you want something that allows your users to interact with users that are not part of your family and not on your platform, eventually able to completely replace the mainstream social media?

For me, no. I want my SIL to be able to easily post pictures and videos of my toddler niece, and all the family members to be able to oooh and aaaah, and react with little heart and exploding brain emojis, and comment on how the fact that she climbed a jungle gym is a sign she's sure to be an Olympic athlete. The parents absolutely do not want those videos showing up in TikTok.

Or is a completely closed platform ok, in terms of it's only your family and friends, and people have to go elsewhere (e.g. back to facebook) to interact with others?

Ideally, it'd support ActivityPub. I'm not sure how; perhaps through the user creating channels and setting a federation flag, or marking it as public. I think the expectation that people will understand that inviting someone from another platform effectively makes all of that content public, might be bit much to assume. So I think having private and public channels, where public channels are federate-able would be fine. But I'd rather not have federation than have a system where people are prone to make privacy mistakes. Is there an option I'm missing?

I use Nextcloud, developed by a company,

Yeessss; I think that's a little different, because NextCloud was forked off of the completely open source OwnCloud, which was well-established and license protected long before NextCloud came along. If NextCloud tried any shenanigans, they'd be eviscerated. HumHub is a bespoke solution, right? So they can't be accused of stealing an OpenSource project's s code.

I use Photoprism, which the base edition is FOSS but they have proprietary extras that you pay for (like HumHub).

Yeah, this is a good example. I use it, too, although I admit I've considered, and regularly revisit, alternatives purely because of this quasi-free nature. So much of PhotoPrism is built on free libraries; the project uses something like 120 OSS libraries. How much of their income do you think they contribute to those projects who's work their taking advantage of?

I use Home Assistant, though I think they recently transitioned to a non-profit

I've been using it for two or three years myself; it's always been OSS & free software, AFAIK.

they charge for a cloud connected component.

That's a service. I have no issue with charging for a service, because it's an ongoing cost to the hoster.

Actually, I don't have any issue with anyone charging for their software, either; it's just that I won't use it, and I don't trust quasi-free projects. That's just from experience. Most end badly, either by being bought out and going totally commercial, or just slow enshittification for the non-paying customers.

I write software for myself, and give it away free because it costs me nothing to do so. And I've written software libraries that I know, for a fact, are being used as backbone code for a not insignificant chunk of the internet. I've never been paid by any commercial company taking advantage of my work, and have little sympathy for people charging for software that's 90% other people's freely given code. Which is most software today. You write the entire stack from scratch, including the compiler, like Excel once was? Hell yeah, you deserve to charge for it. Otherwise, you're just profiting off other people's work.

HumHub have been around 10 years, so they aren't exactly new. Plus as it's extendable, perhaps one day a gfycat or emoji reaction plugin will be added (or if you have the skills, maybe you could make one).

Huh. Never heard of them before a week or so ago. I wouldn't completely discount them because of the semi-free model; I just am putting them down on the list.

I think the IRL searches are much less pleasant than you might expect. There are no safe words.

I suppose she could be a hardcore masochist :shrug:

Yeah, don't do that unless you want a body cavity search. Never, ever, say the word "bomb," in any context, in a US airport. I suspect other countrys' airport security are just as paranoid, but I know the US's are.

I don't know that shavette, but it's worth noting that not all shavettes are created equal, and that most shavettes are designed for hair stylists and don't work well for shaving.

IME, a product like what grandparent said, the Feather Artist Club, are designed specifically for shaving (vs shaping hair, or shaving the back of the neck) and it makes an enormous difference. They're on the pricey side, but worth it. The Artist Club razors are also excellent, and one model is a safety razor blade which makes shaving more comfortable.

As I said, I can't speak to the one you have, but I'd guess they took a stylist's shavette and paired it with some shaving gear to market it to shavers. I've had one of those back-clip style shavettes and did not find it acceptable - but your's could be different. One give-away is that they're showing using it with snapped safety razors. Notice that the corners of the blades are sharp angles:

Compare that to the Artist Club's rounded corners:

These are much more forgiving, and much less likely to catch and cut you (pictured are the safety version, but the regular Artist Club blades also have rounded corners). You could also try these blades in your shavette, or find safety razors blades with rounded corners. That alone will improve your shave from your current shavette.

If you're having trouble with it, though, consider getting a shavette designed for face shaving, from a reputable company.

If it's truly in a sleep mode, and you don't have Wake-on-LAN enabled, no distro that I'm aware of will wake itself and make noise.

But the belts-and-suspenders solution is to make a cron job that mutes the audio devices in the evening, and unmutes it in the morning. Depending on your cron subsystem and configuration, this will work even if the laptop is asleep at the trigger times; some cron systems guarantee execution of events - systemd is one of them, and is the most likely one you'll encounter.

But, seriously: if you put Linux to sleep, it stays asleep; you have to work to get it to wake itself up to do things, and it usually requires some external trigger.

I suffered from the wrong interpretation myself for a long time, and I think it's worth a brief explanation as to why it is wrong. It's clear why so many people misunderstand it, and I'm incapable of providing a concise, correct explanation to other people myself. But I like to see other people try, and hope one day to come across an elegant explanation that I can plagiarize.

Thirded.

They occasionally upgrade services for free, and rarely raise prices. They support a variety of base Linux images, including Arch (which, when I first switched to them, was rare). The control board is functional, and they've got all the features needed to implement VPN subnets, DKIM, etc. without having to use the DNS provider's tools (assuming you are using a different provider). There's also a command-line tool for managing your VPSes with them. Reasonably priced, the usual array of options from cheap to expensive, easy to add resources, and so on. Servers in the US and Germany (and maybe others? I haven't added a VPS in a while).

When I first started self-hosting, not all of this was standard. I can't say I've looked at the market in a few years, so perhaps their offerings are standard now, but when I moved from another hosting provider, Contabo stood out. I have been quite happy; perhaps the best thing I can say about them is that I haven't had to contact their technical support in the past couple of years.

P.S. the only cautionary thing I'll say it's that they're a German company. While you can never trust any VPS provider from a data security POV, Germany is a 5-eyes country, and so sits in my "least trustworthy" list; as in, they're least likely to put up any resistance if one of the surveillance states asks for access to your data, or to tell you about it before they do. For me, this doesn't matter, and frankly I don't have enough knowledge to choose a better option if I needed it. Since I don't, and since I'm not using my servers for anything that's currently considered subversive, it isn't yet a worry for me. But FYI.

WHAT? SPEAK UP! I CAN'T HEAR YOU OVER THE OBNOXIOUS NOISE OF YOUR STRAIGHT PIPES! STOP MUMBLING!

Thanks!

Agreed: some items are basic functionality that should reliably and easily work. Image & video uploading are among them. I'll add some verbiage on the CryptoPad page about options which have been rejected simply because they don't support the most basic features.

It's funny: I've been similarly searching for a good chat platform, and there are two things which I personally don't care much about, but which a couple of my family members are insistent about: typing notifications; and gifs - as in, a widget where you can search for short gifs from e.g. Gfycat and have them inserted. My wife absolutely requires the latter.

That being said, my position on emoji responses are almost a core feature for a social media platform IMO. They're fast, easy, non-cluttering feedback, eliminating the need to type out some inane, two-word response. It's infuriating (to me) that Lemmy doesn't support them; it leads to such illuminating responses as "So much this!", "Yes!", but worst of all the lack subverts up/downvotes, which should be a tool for designating interest, not agreement. Not having emoji reactions muddies and dilutes any value voting has.

Pixelfed is an interesting suggestion. It always feels like it's intended to be public. Were you thinking each user would have to configure default privacy settings?

You may be right. I think I read that post visibility was configurable; if I can narrow the field sufficiently I'll start installing them and checking how they work. I do think federation would have to be disabled on any AP server.

I can see how to restrict to followers but haven't yet found how to stop anyone being able to follow you.

Yeah, that would be a blocker.

I think for me, if a new user has to set up the privacy settings to stop them posting everything public, that's probably not the right platform.

Agreed. The service must be at least configurable to be private-by-default.

BTW there is PixelDroid as a dedicated Pixelfed app, but it's only on Fdroid.

I think I found an iOS app, too... but I looked at so many servers last night I may be misremembering.

The table isn't rendering on my mobility client, so I'm going to delete it from the post; I'll keep the CryptoPad document going as long as I can, but it's open edit, and I'm hoping others will contribute to it.

We need a robust addiction support network to go along with that, but, yes: illegalizing drugs causes more problems than it solves. Legally regulated and sold drugs ensure quality and provide confidence that what the consumer is getting (and ingesting) is what they think it is.

What are at the bottoms of its legs?

A pox on our society! They're a crutch! Kids spend so much time on these things, and they never learn to walk or run properly! Why, back in my day, a man could run all day using only his feet, and travel all the way to the next village! Now with these "wheels," kids are lazy. Sure, they get there faster, but they're stuck on the roads and can't travel through the jungle.

They're all going to grow up with atrophied legs and soft, squishy feet. It's a corruption of society, I tell you.

They should be banned.

Argh! I've posted a similar question; basically, I want a private alternative to Facebook, with wall-like functionality. The second minimum requirement is that there be an iOS app that makes posting easy -- including initiating a picture or video capture. So:

• #1: private, b/c it's family sharing toddler pictures
• Also #1: super user friendly, because (100% - 1 person) involved are non-technical
• Also #1: has to have a better user tool than an SPA. No web interface can ever be anywhere as good as a native app can be, and I will die on that hill.
• #2: emoji reactions, and threaded comments

I'm not interested in installing and evaluating a dozen different servers, so like you I've been hoping that people with similar goals would narrow down the field a bit. There's no way I'd convince enough of the family to go along with evaluating all of the options anyway, and IME what works fine for me can often fall apart when other people come onboard.

I'd convinced myself that Friendica -- venerable, proven, reasonably popular -- would fit the bill, especially because the design doesn't assume public-by-default, like Mastodon or Lemmy, and the potential damage of exposed content, either through my misconfiguring the server, or some upgrade assuming users want everything public by default, is high. I'd prefer a project where the developers assume private-by-default, and invite-first. Lemmy isn't really right, because we're following people, not communities; Mastodon has a better model, following users, but then its conversation threading is kind of shit for this purpose, and its reaction feature set is anemic. Circles was perfect, and beloved by the key parent involved, until it first made half of her posts invisible to her (and only to her and her husband), and then locked her out. This doesn't surprise me much, as Circles is based on Matrix, which frankly has the worst cryptography management I've even encountered. But if you're saying Friendica is that painful to post media on, then it won't work.

I'm leery of Humhub because of the quasi-commercial nature, and its youth. I've had too many experiences with initially semi-commercial platforms shifting, either suddenly or slowly, to increasingly commercial positions -- moving features from the "free" to the "paid" column. Vendor lock-in is a real issue with a dozen users.

So if Friendica is out, maybe Pixelfed? It seemed to me to be mostly indistinguishable from Mastodon, but if they have better comment threading, reactions, and I need to re-evaluate the AP clients to see if any would be user-friendly enough for the parents. I've used mostly Fedilab, and I'm not sure it's ideal. For one thing, it doesn't have support more than basic reactions: you can boost or favorite, but I am -- and I think you are probably -- looking for something with more variety, like emoji responses, right?

I'm watching the other reactions here, and my post on this topic is here. I may post a summary -- there are comparison charts, but they all tend to focus on feature set and fall short on the overall use case. On my thread,

• Misskey was recommended as Facebook-like, and in particular, some of its forks have features the core project is missing. I always got the impression Misskey was a Mastodon-analog, which would make it not a good fit, so I've skipped over it. With Friendica out, I'm going to put Misskey back on the "possible" list.
• Diaspora has also been recommended and is near the top of my list.
• Smithereen was recommended, but the sparsity of the documentation -- not even a list of features -- put it down low on my list.
• Hubzilla has a lot of documentation; it focuses a lot on content management -- assets, calendars, document sharing, etc. -- which will be fine if "easily post content to a feed" and "follow a user and view a stream of their posts" is a first-class interaction model.
• Pixelfed is still an option. I just need to confirm/refute my "Mastodon, with pictures" perception. If my perception has been skewed by the fact that I'm interacting with Pixelfed through a (mainly) Mastodon app, then maybe it'll work. However, there isn't AFAICT a Pixelfed app, so if the only way to get to a more wall-like view is through a web interface, it's not going to work.

@[email protected] is also looking for this feature set / use case. I kind of feel as if it's more useful to think about this as a use case, because almost all of these projects can claim some or all of the requested features, and yet not satisfy what we're looking for in terms of user experience. This would be a great opportunity for another tool: a wiki with a list of applications & features, but with a discussion section and focused on winnowing projects by consensus about suitability. Again, lots of software that have the necessary functionality and which could be wrangled to do this, but still fail to be a good tool for the objective.

Edit

Probably not the best place to do this, because I'm the only one who can edit this, but:

I deleted the table, as it wasn't rendering on some mobile clients. The table was re-created in CryptoPad.

~~I'll go find a collaborative, wiki-like document thing with discussions that isn't G**gle.~~

Edit 2

The table is now here, as a CryptPad document. In an exercise of trust, it's open to edits. If vandals wreak too much damage, I'll restrict access, but that'll require creating accounts and requesting access, and all that shiz.