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A couple weeks ago, I deleted social media off my phone. Insta and reddit was all that was left, but I noticed how much of a useless time sink they were becoming. My daily mood has also improved.

Now, I've been reading manga and playing chess online to fill the gap. But I'm still looking for suggestions on what else there is to do besides doom scroll. It's not like I'm outlawing the internet entirely, I still have interests and hobbies etc, but I'm open to just about anything.

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 29 minutes ago

Reading articles and books

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

RSS feeds, Gemini and Gopher. Always good stuff there, and feels cosier than social media!

[–] [email protected] 1 points 36 minutes ago

I second this! Hunting, curating, and organizing rss feeds are the best!

[–] [email protected] 4 points 4 hours ago

Lemmy (Summit) Open Sudoku

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 hours ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 hour ago

Sir, please stop recommending crack to cure OP's smoking addiction.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 hours ago

Reading a paper book, playing balatro on mobile. I'm not using my phone as much, not with the current events happening.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 7 hours ago

Check if my apps are up to date. Then remind myself fun is in real life not my phone. I'm not being pedantic it just helps to focus on my real happiness and keeping my hands busy than not and dooming in my phone.

[–] skulblaka 17 points 16 hours ago
[–] [email protected] 1 points 9 hours ago

I have some novels on royal road i keep up with. But after than i enjoy the tranquility

[–] [email protected] 2 points 11 hours ago

In terms of chances:

  • 90% Tiktok
  • 8% Lemmy
  • 2% YouTube

When I'm actively doing something (not just on my phone):

  • 70% YouTube
  • 10% Crunchyroll
  • 5% Friends jellyfin servers
  • 5% Netflix
  • 10% Browser / Chatgpt / Termux / any other tool
[–] [email protected] 6 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

I read lots of books. Libby is an app to electronically check out books from your local library for free. You can also read lots of amateur stories online on various sites. Royal Road has been one of my favorite sites for regular stories that you can read in public.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 8 hours ago

+1 for Libby. Also shout out to Z-Library, Library Genesis, and the Internet Archive for all the book epubs and pdfs you can find there

[–] [email protected] 2 points 16 hours ago* (last edited 16 hours ago)

Nothing. I only use a gaming PC to go online, draw, and play games on. I rarely even use my phone...

[–] [email protected] 4 points 23 hours ago

I have miniflux setup for RSS feeds, and I'll doom scroll lemmy. For games I emulate old pokemon games. You can also just get lost in your thoughts for a bit too. It can really be good for your brain to just sit with your thoughts for a while.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 17 hours ago

Lately it's been sifting through IMDB collections to find movies to watch.

That or I check the groups I'm in to see what I'm late to the party on now.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago* (last edited 20 hours ago)

Play the NYT wordle, mini crossword, connections for the day. I have some small simple games that can be stopped at any time. My most played ones are cake sort, water sort, sudoku and sometimes minesweeper. Also scroll lemmy sometimes, it's small enough that it doesn't take long to see everything that is new, so there's no risk of getting sucked in for long

[–] [email protected] 40 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Don't replace social media with something else on your phone.

Put the phone down and walk away.

[–] [email protected] 34 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Probably less addictive.

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[–] [email protected] 52 points 2 days ago (2 children)
[–] [email protected] 21 points 1 day ago

Honestly, as someone who largely disliked social media and was typically a lurking doomscroller that was ready to quit social media altogether at the reddit app ban, what made the best change ever was becoming someone who is primarily a poster.

I post what I want, when I want, and I get to start the conversation that way. It's always a topic I want to talk about, and it's something there isn't much to argue about, and all the interactions will be 99% positive.

It's a small crowd here, so you can get people that are ready to talk with whoever reaches out to the masses first.

You can take time replying to people, and if no one is talking at the moment, it gives you time to plan a next post.

Pick a topic you enjoy and make yourself our local expert. That prompts you to keep actively learning about something you enjoy too so you can answer people's questions they ask you.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 day ago (1 children)

switching to lemmy has made my social media consumption SIGNIFICANTLY less doomscroll-ey

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago (2 children)
[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 hours ago* (last edited 9 hours ago)

no addictive algorithm to keep you hooked and lemmy actually encourages you to act instead of just scrolling endlessly.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 day ago* (last edited 20 hours ago) (1 children)

I was like most Americans doom scrolling things things like r/latestagecapitalism and a r/aboringdystopia because I was aware that things were fucked; like most of us are.

It felt like the fuckery was permanent and that there was nothing I could do but accept that this was reality and try to make the most out of it; filling me w despair about life and leading me to doomscrolling all the time.

Lemmy showed to me in writing that this fuckery was predicted almost 2 centuries ago and that there's actually very few people perpetuating the fuckery (for their own benefit) and they've engineered this system to create the mass false belief that all the fuckery is permanent and that there is nothing we can do about it except push for small, ineffectual changes.

Lemmy, tiktok, and rednote have shown me that people like me are living significantly better lives simply because the ultra rich are not allowed to perpetuate the type of fuckery that was keeping me trapped in a doomscroll loop.

Rednote, in particular, was eye opening for me: I learned from them that most people on that side of the planet assume that life altering medical bills, housing unaffordability, & student loans like mine were nothing more than anti-american propaganda from their governments.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

us media has a way of sucking the life out of you. internet, movies and even games.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 8 hours ago

It's like refined sugar both addicting and difficult to avoid

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 day ago

I have a few dozen mobile games

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 day ago

Mostly tiktok scrolling. It's got a bad rep, but there's a huge amount of seriously talented people on there doing amazing and creative things. I'm a 50-something year old guy and it quickly figured out I like videos about mine explores and restoring vintage vehicles. Once you learn to downvote stuff you don't like, it's quick to learn and aside from the comment bots or obvious trolls (Typically pro-Russian or Pro-Trump, if there's a difference) it's generally a positive thing, in moderation.

I totally get your desire about avoiding socials and have experienced the mood swings it can bring too. That's made me quite tuned into how the algorithms are steering me. For me (and everyone's experience is different) - Facebook is mostly bland generic stuff but quite useful for local content - just avoid the drama llamas), and use an advert blocker. Reddit is mixed. I used to be on there a lot and contributed and modded a bunch of stuff, but quit for a year after spez screwed over the app people. I skim it a bit now, but don't give it much mind. X is awful, won't go near it. Lemmy is less of a shitpost zone than most but still has too few people to be significant. We're all helping with that though.

Lemmy aside, I think most algs will figure you out pretty quick. If you get involved in nasty commenting, it'll feed you more of that. If you do the odd positive thing (as I try to) then it can be less toxic - but with all things, remember why you're there. The more you feed it, the bigger to you it becomes. Balance is important, and be aware of how stuff is affecting you.

Anyway, beyond TT, crosswords, some news sites and the occasional candy crush.

Good question though, I'm reading other comments as it's harder to find stuff outside of the main channels now.

[–] [email protected] 26 points 2 days ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 day ago (3 children)

Libby is an absolute blessing.

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[–] imsufferableninja 9 points 1 day ago

I hang out with all y'all jokers on lemmy

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

PPSSPP and Dolphin. Playing through the entirety of Paper Mario: TTYD, Luigis mansion, Sims 2, and Killzone wasted a good chunk of idle time for me.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 16 hours ago

Dolphin is honestly such a cool emulator. I also love how it's technically two emulators at once! Never had a single issue with any of the games I've played on it. It's so solid

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[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Duolingo. My whole family has caught the bug. I hear the little ba-ding! noise from all corners of the house all evening long.

Y todavΓ­a no puedo hablar bien espaΓ±ol πŸ˜•

[–] socialjusticewizard 14 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I wish there was a foss option that was so good for, for lack of a better description, mindless learning

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago

yucata.de (online boardgames)

Shattered Pixel Dungeon

Simon Tatham Puzzles

Lichess app - Puzzle of the Day

Gurgle app (wordle)

https://wikitok.vercel.app/ (endless mood-scroll Wikipedia)

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 day ago (3 children)

Various solitaires via LΓ–VE Solitaire.

Simon Tantham puzzles

And, due to a Lemmy post I saw the other day, a game called Slice and Dice.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 16 hours ago

I came here to see if anyone else suggested Simon Tathams puzzles - it's a real gem! Perfectly dull, all-quality puzzles with no bullshit!

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