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AITA for refusing to pick up something I hate for my husband? (zerobytes.monster)

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The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/Gullible_Airport_219 on 2025-02-15 19:32:13.

For context- I hate seafood. I hate the smell of it, the look of it, everything about it. My husband on the other hand LOVES it. He frequently eats it, and when he cooks it I literally have to go to a room in the back of the house and close the door so the smell of it doesn’t make me barf. The other day a local fisherman posted he was bringing in Fresh Live Lobster in 2 weeks and you could come buy it at a local farm stand about a mile from our house on the day he brought it in. He also let you pay in advance. I asked my husband if he would like some, told him the price, and also told him he would have to go pick it up on the Saturday it arrived. He said yes, so I bought him a lobster. Today was the day to pick them up. He asked me to get it because “ he had to work” in a few hours and didn’t feel like going. I refused. I work from home, but it’s my busy season. I’ve been working 10-12 hour days, and have to work today too. He knows I hate those creatures, and this one is fricken ALIVE! He got all mad at me and yelled at me, a lot, and kept trying to convince me to go. But I stood my ground. He is no longer speaking to me… but he went to go get the lobster. AITA for making him get it?

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[–] _core 1 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Absolutely not. He's the asshile, you told him the terms of getting lobster and he tried to force you to go anyway. He also did this knowing you hate seafood, he's a further asshole b/c he cooks seafood all the time despite you hating even the smell of it. That's pure disrespect of you, your time, and your wellbeing (since the smell makes you physically ill)

[–] _core 1 points 1 week ago

My wife hates seafood and I love it. I only ever eat it when we go out because she can't stand the smell of it so I don't cook it at home. I'm not going to force her to endure something she hates for something I don't need.