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[–] [email protected] 14 points 3 days ago

Maybe she's secretly hoping he'll use it to sexually blackmail her. That is a kink some people have.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 days ago

Wait for another hack on a cloud service then put it online and claim ignorance.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 3 days ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 days ago

More like Kim Jong-Un's birthday parade.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Sounds romantically intended with some really fucked up and distorted ideas mixed in. I'll take as given that she doesn't actually hold any of the racism she expressed as sincere beliefs. Part of you twigged that though she seemed to be trying to be nice in a really weird way, something seemed off and it is a bit off. If you imagine she mailed you a knife and a key to her house and said now you have the power to attack me and I'm vulnerable you'd probably see much more clearly and obviously how unromantic and off-putting and psychotic that is despite following a very similar logic.

In both these scenarios she's putting her life in your hands to demonstrate trust, but there's an implicit suggestion there that you would or could ever do something like that and only don't because of your undying devotion. There's a kind of twisted view of humanity there that that ruining someone's life on purpose with kompromat is something people generally do to one another but for the power love to zovercome it. It's sort of a red flag that she might think that way but really you know her better than any of us and also whether you think she's good for you. That she decided this would be a good idea and a nice birthday gift is disturbing enough that it's probably worth bringing up though. I think if it was me I'd probably express appreciation for the sentiment but also delete the video and tell them I had done so. Unfortunately you could never prove that you have deleted it so her messed up little game will always work in the manner that she intended but the extent to which this is something to worry about long term is something you can evaluate from her reaction to this news and your explanation of why it didn't feel right. Sometimes people do dumb shit, especially when they think they've spotted an opportunity for comedy and can't see their actions in a different light until after they've done the stupid thing. There's a chance here for this stupid thing to be a memory between just the two of you that neither of you has to worry about again so long as you point out that it wasn't as romantic as she thought it was and also delete whatever email or communication was used to send the video plus the video itself. If she's able to feel a bit embarrassed and move on you're probably fine, if she digs in and gets offended and tries to play similar fucked up games, then you might want to consider getting out before things escalate.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 days ago

I think the crux of it will be, would she respect OP's refusal to have that kind of power over her, and would she expect some sort of reciprocal act for some MAD outcome.

I'd wonder where she got ideas like that and find out if it's an integral part of her life.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

Personally, I’d delete it in case relationship took a turn for the worse. I wouldn’t want to be tempted to ruin someone’s life out of jealousy or a broken heart.

I see both sides. As off-putting as it is, the intent of showing complete trust and vulnerability should not be overlooked. Maybe just ask them to dial it back to a less offensive method of demonstration.

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 days ago (1 children)

It's a twisted romantic gesture. I like it. Being partners in crime strengthens the bond between two people.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 days ago

Yeah but why racism? She could say something illegal like "I plan on killing (person's name"

I think the comment that says she is fishing for whether he is racist too is on the right track.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 3 days ago

Cut off all communication with this girl, now!

[–] [email protected] 6 points 3 days ago

Definitely just put one of my eyebrows through the ceiling.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 days ago
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