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Making music is a great outlet for any kind of emotion. But it's a long journey so you should manage your expectations. You won't be writing the most sophisticated songs at first, but as long as it's from your heart, it's good nonetheless.
I can't relate to your depression, though, so I don't know if this would be too overwhelming. If you manage to stick with it, the sense of fulfillment is amazing though.
Reading books. I enjoy it so much because it distracts me from depression, but depending on the book, it also can be enlightening in some ways and doesnβt require me to really do much or go anywhere.
Knitting. The basics are really easy to pick up and you get something out of it surprisingly fast. As an added bonus knitting supplies can be gotten for around $10 at walmart all in
If you're looking for something you can do while watching YouTube, origami. It lets you ease into a hobby, without completely taking away your vice.
Here's some i made yesterday while watching schadenfreude vids about the Netflix Cowboy Bebop disaster...
Try martial arts.
Exercise gives you endorphins. Endorphins make you happy.
I say martial arts because it sounds like you're having trouble being self-directed and finding motivation. I also have trouble being self-directed. I don't go to the gym because I get there and I'm overwhelmed by the options and don't know how to use the machines and get really self-conscious about everything. I don't like outside sports because I live where it's hot. Martial arts classes are set up to teach you in structured lessons, with instructors to plan what you're gonna do and keep you motivated.
Plus, you get to hit stuff.
Go swimming in the sea
For me its gardening. If you don't have a an outdoor space, get yourself a couple of pots and plant some veggies and place them by the window.
Uninstall/disable the YouTube app. Trust me you will be a happier person
Ultimate Frisbee
How do you feel about finding things difficult and failure? Because that's really important to consider when thinking of suggestions. It also depends how dedicated or how hard you are on yourself.
Making something. I'm taking lessons on metalworking, and it's really satisfying to have something that I made which can be useful in my daily life.
I have started to knit. I usually will watch TV or listen to a podcast and as I become better, I try more complex projects that force me to put more thought in what I'm doing.
I started out not doing anything specific, basically different lengths of squares and rectangles, because I also struggle with motivation to do anything. It was really just so I would have something to do and keep myself busy with. Then I started to include more simple techniques and then motifs and now patterns. If it's something that interests you, I think it's a great way to get distracted and at the end of it, you get a "reward" (being whatever you knit).
I hope you find something that helps you and that eventually you overcome depression.
Physical hobbies like sports are very good, I went to a "martial arts club" for 2 years to train boxing. They shut down the boxing part of the gym during COVID and never started back up. So naturally I started singing. I had been singing in my car to and from work for almost 2 years at the time, so when COVID hit I started singing much more. Now Im in a choir and Ive been part of 2 concerts. You always have your voice with you so its easy to just put on some music and practise. I was still quite depressed so I got a dog, even though Im allergic, and have just gotten into university to get a degree in something completely different from my previous job. I feel amazing these days.
Honestly winemaking and brewing are great for depression. Can't find the willpower to take care of it for two weeks? That's fine! It's just aging, you can do the next step whenever you feel like it. And then you get to share and everyone is pressured to say nice things, it's great.
Dancing. There were dark times in my life where the dance practice was the highlight of the week. You get to know people too and when you choose a style of music you like it's almost impossible to feel bad. I know of people I met there who need it as well to stay positive.
Also it's physical and mental exercise in one. Perfect.
Anything creative, as a lot of people have suggested. It's highly satisfying to see a finished product you crafted yourself. And they really make you get in the zone and hyperfocus.
Scrapbooking is a good one. Sift through your photos, find some that bring back good memories and get them printed. Invest in a small spiral bound scrapbook, some acid-free coloured paper and decorations (you can get these from poundshops/dollar stores). Look at other people's scrapbooks online and shamelessly copy their designs until you can come up with your own.
Maybe you could even make some for the people you care about. Added bonus of being able to go over good memories with them. Maybe you can bring a smile to both of your faces.
Another cute one is making models out of greyboard (the grey cardboard on the back of refill pads).
Best of luck, I hope you feel better soon!
Learn programming?
ive have been wanting to make games but im not sure what language or engine to learn, also it seems very daunting.
Just learn how to use unity (older c#). Once you start getting into that, you will probably know where to go from there.
I play a video game (usually a retro one) on a low difficulty level. Then beat the computer over and over again. Bonus points if itβs a game I usually avoid because itβs too hard.
Gives a constant feeling of satisfaction at beating the computer over and over.
@QuietStorm
Group activities. People who are depressed should endeavor to be around people even if it is not what they want. Loneliness in a depressed person will turn to self loathing. Playing card games and board games with friends is a great activity because it forces you to be socially active and think about something other than what is depressing you.
Meditation.
It's been shown to be a very effective remedy for depression. It's also a useful tool for getting in control of your mind. If you meditate regularly, you'll find more enjoyment in the things you're already doing.
Also, since it's just you and your thoughts, you may discover something you're interested in and find a hobby that way.
Sports outdoors with other people