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I don't know if this is something people say in other countries, but in my country, there's this common cliché or "wisdom" where adults will assure you that the people who picked on you in environments like school will universally develop lives of hardship later on, one way or another getting into mayhem.

I asked my mother one day what happened to all those people growing up. I can sense she may have been sugar coating it, but she said something along the lines of "well, I waited, and waited, and waited, and waited, and waited, and became a teacher, and waited some more, and finally watched as my bullies had to go into retirement five years late, yay" (okay, not really like that, but it might as well have been).

Yeah, common theme in my experience that what we hope for is never "that" set in stone. No matter where in the community (or even long-distance communicating) you knew them from, based on life, how much approximate correspondence do you associate with that mindset in the first paragraph?

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 6 months ago

I don't expect the odds of karma kicking them in the junk to be much higher than average maybe +5% to 15% max.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

One dead, the second one with his life just as stagnant as it was 20 years ago, and the 3rd one I honestly have no idea. 3rd one wasn't really bad, he just fell in with the wrong crowd. I ran into his sister a couple of years ago, but she didn't know his whereabouts either. But last time she heard feom him he was doing surprisingly well.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 6 months ago

One died in a car accident, the other main one had a lot of babies who now have their own babies. I moved continents and changed my name through marriage before I opened any social media accounts, so I have no idea what happened to the bulk of them.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (1 children)

I'm friends with them! 😃 People can change, and they're nothing like their former selves. They understood that acting rude to me and others when we were little was a wrong thing to do and now they're just regular nice people who are super chill!

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago (1 children)

My Jr Highschool bully ended up accidentally shooting and killing his friend a few years later in high school. He dropped out and found Jesus, seemed to be dealing with it on his own by the time I graduated. Haven't heard a thing about him in the decade or so since.

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago

One was in a car accident, ended up a quadriplegic.

Another one, last I saw, he was pumping my gas.

[–] otp 3 points 6 months ago

One of them is in jail for a looong time. Gang activity including relation to murders. Not sure if he pulled the trigger, but he was the "leader", lol

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago

People who were bullies in high school earn more on average. I'd say they are probably doing better.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago

My grandma came in with a hot take on this.

"If she was a bitch at 17, she is a bitch at 70."

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 children)

I know at least one of them was arrested for B&E and possession with intent to sell of meth (though it was immediately after high school and I'm sure he's out by now). The rest, don't know don't care.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 months ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 children)

Breaking and Entering. He (and two others) were burglarizing homes.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 months ago

A town near where I grew up had an epidemic of that. The teachers treated the bullies like their favorite children, the next thing you knew they had burglarized every single unlocked vehicle in the entire town for drug money on multiple occasions and were arrested right before they would've graduated from high school. My friend was one of their brothers and I remember it got so bad they graduated him despite him not passing just to remedy the memory of trying to overshadow him.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 months ago (1 children)

The biggest asshole at my primary school got shot by a woman he was living with when he was like 19.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 months ago

That was quick.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Two of them became somewhat decent persons.
The worse one was murdered.
The others I don't know.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 months ago (1 children)

What happened to the murderer?

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