Either nuance in a topic people are very black and white about or not being able to figure out how people can read things as the opposite of what I wrote.
Only happened a couple of times, no regrets.
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Either nuance in a topic people are very black and white about or not being able to figure out how people can read things as the opposite of what I wrote.
Only happened a couple of times, no regrets.
Asking people to see nuance here and the rest of the web is the worst. You're either left or right. Urban or not. Up or down. There is no in between, partial solutions are useless. Drives me bonkers
If you call both sides right/wrong when both sides are right/wrong, both sides downvote you.
Mention a third option, middle ground, or reasonable compromise is a downvoting.
Tell them to chill, you might have well stuck a hornets nest up you ass. There's a reason you occasionally see people just admitting they were wrong or changing their mind get sent to the front page, its just rare.
Yep, I still make the misstake from time to yime and try and give a resonable take on a rant post when I feel like they are too unfair.
Latst time was a few days ago when I responed to a person in a Linux community ranting about how Windows 11 sucks because he didn't know how to use it properly and that it had the audacity to not include drivers for 20 year old equipment.
I got massively downvoted and after I explained that I was an IT tech that didn't run Linux on my main machine, I was weirdly called out and some idiot claimed that you can't be an IT tech if you are not running Linux as your main computer OS.
It was kinda funny, I was bashed contiously by the open community for a minor disagreement, while I believe that I stayed polite throughout the conversation
Asking why you're getting downvoted is usually the easiest way to get downvotes.
But I often wish I would get a comment about downvotes. It's easy enough to see why I'm getting downvoted when I post stupid shit, but sometimes I feel like even the most uncontroversial post or comment will get at least one downvote. I want to know when I'm wrong, so I can learn!
Like, the other day there was a post getting downvoted to oblivion and nobody told OP anything. I commented my reason and OP actually seemed to be learning from that, edited the post and the downvotes stopped accumulating.
I've seen completely normal and innocuous statements heavily downvoted here. Some people seem to just downvote everything and other people seem to downvote anything that already has downvotes. But one thing is for certain, it's treated as a like/dislike button, not as a meter for content that does or doesn't contribute to the subject.
I had a conversation with someone about one of my downvotes posts, which helped to understand yet another stupid derailing tactic that terrible people use to stifle conversation. I really appreciated their feedback, even if I didn't see any way to avoid the misunderstanding.
Anything slightly "feminist". You know, like pointing out that women do the majority of unpaid care work. Or saying it's not nice to objectify women. Or sometimes mentioning the word women will do it.
Lemmy has a much, much, much better crowd than reddit, but it definitely still got the "not all men", "I only ever comment on stories about extremely rare false rape accusations" crowd.
I remember on Reddit once I commented a very vague description of a very personal experience I had with SA. Not fucking joking, people were defending this person they knew literally nothing about, except for the fact that I had said "oh yeah, I've experienced SA".
I haven't seen anything that bad on Lemmy yet so hopefully it stays chill.
Just talk about how you genuinely enjoy Microsoft Windows as an operating system.
Saying something centrist instead of left-wing. I feel like I'm left of center in most places, but right of center here. Stuff like "we should try to just have a well regulated capitalist system instead of going full on socialist, because as bad as capitalism is, socialism has been shown to be worse," would get me downvoted into oblivion.
Posting for the sake of intelligent discussion; Philosophy.
Nobody understands the term "Devils Advocate" on lemmy. It's just "TROLL". I can't possibly discuss a viewpoint online, that I don't personally believe without instantly being labeled a troll.
I don't brain like most people brain. I like to explore and discover the aspect of things which made us land on those decisions or opinions. Turns out, most people don't like that.
Wrong politics. Too dry of satire. Too absurd of memes. Pictures of Charles III.
EDIT: Oh, and cigar posts. Some small handful of shit pieces downvote me everytime I post in the Cigar/Tobacco community.
AI isn't stealing your art. Text to image stable diffusion literally can't output a copy of your work.
And if you post your art online for free, you have no expectation of anyone not using your work to the extent that fair use allows. AI looking at your work for training is the same as a human looking at your work for inspiration.
When I reply to a comment with a laugh or what have you. I like them too know I laughed but since I'm not adding to the conversation I guess I'm getting voted down. I do it anyway.
I wish either in addition to or in place of votes, we could tag a post or comment with a small fixed selection of emojis. To signify it was funny, cool, thoughtful, etc.
And then maybe even filter or sort posts based upon the metrics that arise from the above.
You go back to Facebook damn you. ;)
Asking for support with questions that others think are really easy to solve. Was a big problem on reddit as well.
Anything mentioning furry. Which is a shame, because I hoped the internet had outgrown such immaturity.
Although, looking through my history, apparently anything that criticizes Windows or AI, which is odd considering the demographics here.
Deviating from the group narrative is the major one.
The content of your post doesn't really matter if you're making the right sounding noises. As long as you somehow indicate that you're "one of us" then you're probably safe. If you talk shit about Facebook/AI/Elon Musk/Capitalism/Police etc. it doesn't really matter if what you're saying is literally true. If you're speaking to the right audience you're going to get pats on the back nevertheless. Conversely when someone like me then comes and points out that no, Elon Musk actually did not turn off Starlink in Crimea to prevent the Ukrainian attack I'm guranteed to get downvoted for it despite the fact that I'm correct.
I'm guessing the two mains reasons people downvote comments like that are cognitive dissonance; refusal to accept new information that goes against your prior beliefs and alternatively the false assumption that if someone is in any way defending an unpopular person/idea they then must be one of the "other" and thus we can dissmiss what they say without even considering it.
Saying something positive about the United States, or something negative about CCP.
Oh yeah. I'm pretty new to all of this but just mentioning the fact that the CCP is doing raunchy stuff got me downvoted to hell. Even when those replies were provided with links to articles and facts I am being called racist.
That’s just lemmy.ml. Most other users on Lemmy are not like that. I would strongly consider changing instances of you are not too invested in your current one.
What sort of post or comment gets you downvoted the most?
Whenever I say that America is a continent instead of a country, and similar things.
When tankies are on about nuking the west or genociding "white libruls" they tend to dogpile you for calling them fascist pigfuckers.
Can't tell if they like the attention or not because they always share a pic of a pig shitting on its own balls.
Is it an initiation right? a call to arms? is it a sexual advance?! We may never know.
Lately, basically saying that hamas did a big mistake and Gaza would be in a better situation now if they (hamas) were smarter human beings.
Can I be honest? Religion. Anything related to it, somehow will get someone downvote me. Even if I just mention "God" or something. I get that I should "separate the church from the state" or I should be secular here or whatevs, and I respect that. It's not like every time I mention I force it down to everyone's throat!
Tbh I wanted to make a post that greet everyone on Lemmy that are doing Ramadhan fasting at first, but now I don't even feel like doing that. There's no point of posting it, I guess, if it got downvoted and no one wants to see it.
I guess this means that Lemmy isn't much different from Reddit...
Lemmy is Reddit Extreme. Only the people who reacted the strongest to Reddit's policies move(d) over.
Opinions. People seem to hate opinions, whether they're provided with an explanation or not. Facts are also downvoted on a regular base.
Anything about issues men have.
According to Lemmy unless you are trans or gay no man has ever had any issue and it's absolutely never the fault of women. But now you bring up that issue let me downvote and tell you about the issues women have from men.
Based on what I seen on Lemmy. Being an Conservative. Don't believe me. Go to a Conservative community and look at all the downvoted bombed posts.
EDIT "Based on what I seen on Lemmy". I'm talking about World and .ml.
.ml is literally a Marxist Leninist instance saying that right wing PoV gets down voted there is akin to observing that bears indeed shit in the woods
Posting pro-continuation of human existence when everybody else celebrating human extinction.
When I talk about driving my Tesla, while playing on my iPhone, and chugging Starbucks out of my custom Stanley. With my Windows laptop on the passenger side.
No one seems to know or care that "begging the question" means using circular logic and not that something has led to an event where people are begging to ask a question.
An example of properly begging the question could be, "does your mom know you're gay?" It's a yes or no question, but you can't answer it properly if you are straight. That's begging the question.
Whenever I point this out, I get down voted, which leads to the question: why y'all prefer being wrong?