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What sort of post or comment gets you downvoted the most? Especially if you don't think it's bad behavior in the first place, or don't care. Does not have to be on Lemmy, but we are here... One of the good things about Lemmy IMO is that it's small enough to see the posts that are unpopular. If you do "Top Day" on most channels, you cash reach the bottom, see what people here don't like.
As far as comments, attempting to rebut the person who is telling me my post sucks, is what gets me into negative numbers most often. The OP is going to voite it down, of course, and nobody else cares, usually.

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[–] [email protected] 33 points 5 months ago (3 children)

Asking people to see nuance here and the rest of the web is the worst. You're either left or right. Urban or not. Up or down. There is no in between, partial solutions are useless. Drives me bonkers

[–] [email protected] 12 points 5 months ago

If you call both sides right/wrong when both sides are right/wrong, both sides downvote you.

Mention a third option, middle ground, or reasonable compromise is a downvoting.

Tell them to chill, you might have well stuck a hornets nest up you ass. There's a reason you occasionally see people just admitting they were wrong or changing their mind get sent to the front page, its just rare.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 5 months ago (1 children)

I reckon it's the issue of pseudo-anonymity combined with the lack of tone in a text post. If you're talking IRL it's much clearer that you're making a joke or whatever, but all that gets lost in text. Also you generally know who you're talking to IRL, whereas online you don't know if that comment was written by a professor of ethics or a teenager who watched a single video on the topic and is parroting opinions they are now convinced are correct.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 months ago

That's why I really like the /s marker, unfortunately it gets a lot of hate.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (1 children)

What a constrictive outlook on human dynamic and expression.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (1 children)

What's interesting is that the language allows multiple meanings. The commenter above can either be driven bonkers by presence of nuance or the lack of it and both interpretations are correct.

The first sentence can be seen as being against nuance or it can be seen as being against the online experience of asking for nuance.
The next sentences can be seen as arguments against nuance or examples of behaviour encountered when asking for it.
And the final bonkers can either be against the use of nuance or the repeated responses to it use.

So without further clarification, we can't really be sure which stance the commenter implies.
With only these two situations presented, it's a 50/50, left or right choice, so I'll go ahead and presume it's the latter, since that seems to be more likely encountered in online chats.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

If the commenter meant that a black/white mindset drives them nuts, then I redirect my comment, in the sense that:

  1. I agree, it's nuts.
  2. My comment applies to people with that mindset.