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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/LoadSpare on 2024-01-24 03:17:19+00:00.
I 23F and my boyfriend 24M have only been together for about 4 months. Everything is pretty good so far, he is loving, loyal, and very supportive, but he lies about the littlest things. I dug into this subreddit to see if I am not the only one, and I did find one but it is not exactly my situation.
A month ago or so, he confessed to me (while drunk) that he knows he has an issue with telling small lies and letting them build up, and ever since then, I have been noticing more and more little lies adding up. I like him a lot, and I want this relationship to last, but I don't want to be with someone who constantly lies to me. My mom suggested that I test him to see if he would tell me the truth, but I am unsure if that would be toxic. I have tried to let him know that I won't get mad and that those little things don't bother me or upset me, I just would rather know the truth than be lied to about things that don't matter. It's the principle of lying to me that bothers me more than anything.
Does anyone have any suggestions on something small to test him on? If he fails the trust test how should I proceed?
TLDR: My boyfriend keeps lying to me about dumb things and I want this relationship to work but I don't want to be with someone who lies to me constantly, so I am thinking about testing him to see if he will tell the truth, how do I fix this?