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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/Realistic-Wealth-767 on 2024-01-24 00:20:23+00:00.
Me (22M) and my girlfriend (22F) have been together for more than 4 months (which ofc, isn’t that long). I’ve always tried to make her comfortable as that is my own priority. I am definitly not the type of guy to make selfies or mirror pics all day long, but 1 picture once in a while is nice to have imo. Well, now that I’m in a relationship I really would like to have a couple of different pictures (for instance on christmas eve, new years, etc).
Unfortunatly for me my gf does not like taking pictures at al. As I said earlier, I want her to be comfy so when I ask her to take a picture together, she just says no or later, which never happens as I don’t want to ask the same question multiple times on the same day, just feels wrong to do. In all of this time I’ve managed to get one ‘good’ picture together, which I only got after she looked uninterested, frustrated and irritated, what actually destroys my mood as I do this out of love, not hatred. Where it either ends in a forced picture or me saying I dont want a picture anymore as I see she is not doing it for me at least.
Because she doesnt like lictures, and i like them. I’ve tried to find a middle way, by only asking her for a picture when there is like an event or some sorts, or even when we are alone (so there is noone around). Even like this, she says no. Which is unfair imo as I’m trying to find a middle way.
Btw, I do know she had an insecurity about her looks (imo she is a very above average looking female). Ofc I cant tell her this, as she either denies it or feels like I dont take her insecurity seriously. (I mean duh, she’s not gonna say ‘omg yes im the most gorgeous girl ever’)
My question to everyone is: How can I address this issue to her without starting a discussion, or make her feel like she is being forced to do it? Or how can I help her overcome her insecurities?
Sorry in advance, english is not my first language.
TL;DR: my gf wont take pics with me when I really do like it, even when I’m trying to find middlegrounds