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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/Dangerous_Dot3535 on 2024-01-23 23:32:31+00:00.
Boyfriend (26M) dismissed my (24F) feelings, now unsure if I should end things. Seeking advice.
Hey everyone,
I (24F) need some advice on a situation in my relatively new relationship (a few months) with my boyfriend (26M). I flew in from a different country to visit him, and everything was going smoothly until a recent incident during my visit.
During the trip, I was jet-lagged and fell asleep on the couch. My boyfriend wanted to go to bed, but I couldn't keep my eyes open. When I woke up an hour later and went to get ready for bed, he ignored me in bed and wasn't cuddly. The next day when he was making us food, he seemed distant, and when I suddenly started crying because of how he was acting, he asked me what the matter was but didn’t even hug me or try to comfort me, leaving me feeling even more isolated.
Fast forward to a recent conversation where I brought up the situation. Instead of understanding my feelings, he responded defensively, saying I had pissed him off by falling asleep on the couch, which is why he was being cold to me.
Now, I'm contemplating whether I should break up. Has anyone been through a similar situation, or does anyone have advice on how to handle this? Feeling lost and unsure about the future.
TL;DR: I fell asleep on the couch due to jet lag, BF got pissed off, and when I cried the next day, he didn't offer comfort. In a recent conversation, he defensively mentioned I had upset him by falling asleep. Contemplating a breakup now. Advice appreciated.