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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/Endless_Regret_1995 on 2024-01-23 23:13:37+00:00.
There has been a lot of manipulation and cheating on her part in the past. In a relationship of five years, she has cheated on me 2 times emotionally and 2 times physically. I know there are bigger things at play when it comes to cheating and we have worked to resolve those issues, but after going to counseling a big part of it was her seeing that she needs to grow up. The last time she was physically cheating on me (with someone with a wife and kids) she left me for him, emotionally manipulated me into believing it was my fault, lied to me about everything, kept me from hooking up with other people by telling me that she wasn't doing that, etc. I wonder if she is the right person for me as we are completely different people, but after a year of being back together, I feel like I'm getting to the point where I can put the past in the past.
I want to test my girlfriend by texting her from a virtual number claiming that I am the person that she cheated on me with. I understand the moral implications, but I feel like it would solidify my faith in the relationship. The question is if and what she would answer or not, and if she would tell me that he texted her. I have been struggling lately with the relationship because of differences in the kind of marriage we want, the kind of lives we want to lead, when we want to get married, when we want to have kids, how many kids, etc. I'm not looking for a reason to leave, but I feel like this is a test that would make me feel better about pushing for the things that i want (us to take care of ourselves, marriage soon, kids soon, financially responsible decisions, etc.).
TL;DR Should I text my girlfriend from a virtual number, pretending to be the guy that she cheated on me with, to see if she answers.
EDIT: I would like to make clear that I am an adult and can make my own decisions, and no where in my post did I ask if I should break up with my girlfriend or not. I appreciate those who put content regarding the question I had asked, not whether or not I should be in this relationship.