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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/throwaway1283287 on 2024-01-23 21:55:38+00:00.
For some context, we met off of a dating app back in October and started dating in late November. We've been together for just a little over two months. We also both go to the same university. She is my first GF while she's had a couple uneventful flings. Objectively, our relationship has progressed very smoothly up to this point. She's a very sweet person and I've become very infatuated with her.
However, now that the new quarter has begun (our school uses a quarter system rather than a semester system, it basically makes everything much more fast paced), it's been increasingly hard to see her in person. This is because of her busy schedule. She's a STEM major and is also extremely involved in running her sorority. As of now, there is consistently only 1 day a week where we can meet and hangout in private. Even weekends are unavailable because she claims "something always comes up). On the other hand, I'm a A&H major with a lot of time on my hands. While I try to keep myself busy with videogames, the handful of clubs I'm a member of, and HW, I always end up with several hours of free time almost every day. I also lost my friend group at the start of the school year which has left my social circle pretty empty. I still talk to my friends from HS and my parents, but there aren't many people whom I can call a friend.
I try to make the time I have with her as fun as I can, taking her places she's never been and trying to cater to our mutual interests. Even though we have fun and we're together for maybe 5-6 hours, it all feels so short to me. I'd NEVER tell her this, but I'm kind of an anxious and clingy person. I sometimes check my phone constantly waiting for her to respond to one of my texts or checking if she's active on Instagram to see if she's on her phone. She's not the best texter in the world either which does not help. She maybe takes 3 hours to respond to a text on average while I'm an almost instant responder. We've recently gotten into the habit of calling every night which is nice but it's obviously not the same as talking face to face.
A couple of times I've suggested a date idea that I know she likely can't attend, but I suggest it anyways on the off chance she is available. Every time she says she can't make it she apologizes profusely and says she's trying really hard to fit me into her schedule. I always respond saying that she should never feel guilty for being busy but that I'm just trying to make plans if I see the potential for one. I've since promised I'd stop doing this since it made her somewhat angry that I "acted like she has better things to do with her time".
Now, she's currently sick after going to one of her sorority sister's parties over the weekend meaning our plans for the week are cancelled. Obviously I'm not mad at her for being ill and I've offered to grab medicine, food, etc for her if she needs it. I am super sad I can't see her this week. I've thought about dropping off a written "get well soon" card to her apartment but I don't know if that's too overbearing when I've already told her to get better over text & phone call.
I just feel very lost at the moment. And before anyone suggests it, no, I don't want to break up with her. I think a lot of the problems stem from my own head and lack of relationship experience. People who have been in similar relationships, how did you remedy/deal with it? Is there anything I could possibly say to her or do I continue as I have so far?
TL;DR: My girlfriend is very busy with work while I am not. I try to stay busy with myself but I find myself having anxiety attacks over not being able to see her often. Do I just deal with it until I get used to it or is there something I can do to remedy the situation? Is there anything I should say to her?
Thank you.