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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/olympia07 on 2024-01-23 09:35:20+00:00.
My bf and I have quite an age gap. I am almost in my 30s and he is already nearing his 40s. We have been together for almost a year.
I grew up in a family that barely celebrates occasions. Birthdays are just celebrated by simple dinners and New Year’s/Christmas days are spent just eating lunch with a few relatives (although my parents would buy us gifts all the time). I used to envy those who spent the holidays either traveling or playing games on family reunions. Because of this, I promised myself that I would be a fun mom to my future family. Sadly, my current boyfriend hates celebrating.
I spent weeks planning a surprise for his birthday but he didn’t do anything for me on mine. He just went with me on a staycation which I planned on my own. No gifts, no anything. Valentines is coming up and I have been expressing my love for flowers as a hint and I think he got it so he immediately told me that he doesn’t really like giving flowers.
He would surprise me on random days with cakes, pastries, a random iPhone (bcos my phone broke and have been using his spare phone since). But just not on special days. Should I just be contented with this? I honestly just feel sad about the situation. I just don’t get excited on occasions like I used to because I know I can expect nothing from him.
Please help. This has been bothering me for weeks.
Tl;dr: My bf doesn’t like celebrating birthdays/holidays but compromises by giving me gifts on random days. Should I just be contented or leave???