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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/MelbaSmith87 on 2024-01-23 16:45:04+00:00.
I would like some opinions on this manner. My husband (38 M) and I (36 F) have been married for 7 years and have two children, a 4 year-old daughter and a 2 year-old son. Meanwhile, I really have no complaints over my marriage, this thing still lingers in my mind from time to time. I want to forget it but can't. I never got the romantic proposal I've always dreamt about since childhood. Sometimes I can't help it but think I've forced it on him, that I made him feel he had no choice.Prior to getting married, we were living together for nearly 8 years. I was 20 when I met him and he was 22. I was getting tired of waiting too long, his failed promises and excuses to continue extending the timeframe. I walked away one day and the next month, he came knocking on my door apologizing for everything, promising he would be the man I always wanted and proposed. I was still depressed that it took a break-up to get it but I still said yes. I was both happy but hurt at the same time. I think we should've gone for counseling but we never did. I forgave him too fast and we sped up with the wedding.
TLDR:
My huband (38 M) has changed for the better over the years and really did kept to his words. But that small feeling that it took a break-up for him to marry me (36 F), that it wasn't a romantic proposal (the one where the man surprises her) and he likely wouldn't have proposed if I didn't break up still bothers me till this day. Or should I just let it go and forget about it?