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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/tangerinegirlmeow on 2024-01-23 15:39:33+00:00.
I (29F) have the USPS preview emails where it shows a scanned previewed image of the pieces of mail we are supposed to get that day. I checked my email this morning and I see there is a piece of mail coming from a former friend of my fiancées (30M) from a prison address (I googled it) he had told me about this woman before, as he used to know her when he lived in the state where the prison is, but other than telling me she was bad news with tons of kids, I know nothing else
Where it gets suspect IMO is that he would sometimes receive random phone calls with the area code and location mark of the state where this girl lives. Up until recently - a week ago he got a call from a random phone number.
The other day we were laying in bed on our phones and I saw he had a “JPay” app on his phone. I didn’t bring it up bc I trust him but now this letter is setting off alarm bells. He hasn’t been acting weird or off but i feel like he’s hiding something.
If he wanted to be friends and contact this person or be a support while she’s in prison he could just let me know. I wouldn’t love it but he’s a grown man and can do what he wants, it would just make me feel better if he was open and honest about it.
but the fact that’s it’s been sneaky makes me think there’s something else going on.
How should I bring this up? I should get the mail before he gets home from work today but if he doesn’t I have the email of the scanned piece. Part of me wants to see if he brings it up himself or if he tries to hide this but I don’t wanna play games or make this worse
Advice?
TL:DR
My (29F) fiancée (30M) has received a letter from a woman he knows who is in prison - I see I before he did. What should I do?