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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/rafflekicks on 2024-01-23 08:22:29+00:00.
Unfortunately I feel like I am putting more effort in than she is. She comes from a 4 year relationship with someone who never took her on dates, sold drugs, and had no interest in school or education. I was the first guy to ever take her on an actual date.
A little about me, I’m 6’6, fairly and humbly handsome, actively in the gym, educated (finance degree), a gentlemen, and treat her like a princess.
The start of our relationship consisted of her being unavailable to hangout. Only able to hangout once a week on her time and I never denied her, she would deny me over me asking “let me swing by your apartment and bring you food and flowers real quick”.
I mean I can’t make this up, I have to end what could’ve been such a good relationship over this. It seems like she is NOW reversing and doing much more for me but I can’t stand to stay in this knowing beforehand she put little to no effort while I was all in. I know I deserve better. This is an anonymous app so I’ll even sit here and say my ex treated me better, even though we ended because we were toxic.
I just don’t get it, now she wants to put in all this energy once I’m ready to clock out and keep it pushin’. Just sucks, any and all advice is appreciated …
TLDR: gf put no effort in the beginning, now she is, but my mind is set on leaving already. Is there any other way to handle this?