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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/Ano_limok on 2024-01-23 14:06:56+00:00.
Hello People,
I’m in a situation and unsure if I handled it correctly. I’ve been with my girlfriend (27f) for about 8 months. She loves her job, even though it doesn’t pay well.
I can go to her place, she cooks for me, and I do my laundry there. It’s a 30-minute drive from my work. Alternatively, I can cook, sleep, and do laundry at my work apartment. On weekends, I stay at my mom’s house. My girlfriend she never asks for money, but I always offer to cover gas, food, and other expenses, dining out, movies, doing day trip or fun stuff. ( i pay them aswell) but when i sleep at her house. I use the water/toilet bed etc, but i dont live there.
Currently, I’m in training, so I don’t have my own place. I stay at my mom’s on weekends to save money. I believe she’s the one I’ll marry. Recently, she faced financial struggles due to a salary adjustment with tax and car issues. She asked for help, and I offered 430 euros for the car repair, suggesting she could pay me back later.
I sent her the money, and the next day, she mentioned selling her extra phone for a profit. I jokingly suggested she could pay me back faster with that money. She seemed surprised and got upset when I confirmed I wanted the money back in installments.
I’m uncertain if I’m wrong for not giving her the money as a gift. I live at my mom’s to save for the future, and I’m worried she might think I can easily spare the money. Am I being unreasonable?
TD;LR Loaned money to girlfriend she thought it was a gift. But i never said that. Bcs she thinks we are a team and we are. But 430 u can buy alot for.