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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/DearPoseidon on 2024-01-23 13:09:40+00:00.
tl;dr - Friends made plans for a going away party for another friend, but I wasn’t invited until last minute because I live out of state. Do I accept the invite?
I moved out of state after college (flight needed), but 2 of my roommates stayed and another is in a close-by state. We’ve known one of my roommates was moving far away for a while, but there was never an exact date discussed. Recently, I had asked when we would be meeting up next and was told that my one roommates move was happening next week and this weekend they were all getting together for a going away weekend - 3 days from now. This was clearly planned in advance, but both the move timeline and planned weekend was discussed without me knowing. They extended the invite, but it was clear I was an afterthought due to me being out of state. Do I still go? I get me being so far away makes it harder to keep me in the loop, but I feel like for something this important I should’ve been included and not assumed I wouldn’t make the trip. I know they’d want me to be there as well but I don’t like the idea of being an oversight. Not to mention, I’d have to take off of work and the flight would be around $450.
I’m stuck because it is likely the last time I’d be able to see this friend for a while, but at the same time I’m hurt that if I never brought up getting together, I would’ve never been invited nor known they were even leaving this soon.