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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/Vulcapulae on 2024-01-23 13:02:02+00:00.
TL;DR: Girl that I value promised she'd prepare something up for my birthday but didn't, and didn't even wish me happy birthday
There is this girl that I met 1.5 years ago at university and we immediately clicked. She stopped uni to work but we still remained in touch. We wouldn't message or see each other often; let's say we'd send messages a few times every month and we'd meet up once every 2-3 months or so, but that was perfectly fine for both of us.
The last time we saw each other was mid December. She turned 30 in November but couldn't meet up due to conflicting schedules so we met there instead and I gave her her birthday present. She was quite surprised and happy, and she said she'd prepare something for my birthday (which was two days ago).
We really had a special relationship and we would regularly say how much we value each other.
When my birthday came, I had expectations and I know this was a mistake. She didn't even send me a message to wish me happy birthday -- and I highly doubt she forgot about it because last year she wished it to me without me even reminding her about it. This may read as futile but I'm quite saddened she didn't even take time to send me a message, all the more since she originally said she'd plan something for my birthday. I also started developing feelings for her over the last few months and I wanted to use this opportunity to ask her on a date; and not seeing her prevented me from doing so.
I don't really know what to do anymore, because I really value her. Should I send her a message or should I still wait for her to come back to me?