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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/Throwaway5689285 on 2024-01-23 11:05:37+00:00.
I (25) have been dating this girl (25) on and off for for the last two years. This girl is basically everything I've ever wanted besides her negative outlook on life. Our sexual compatibility is the best I've ever had, she's drop-dead gorgeous, and we connect on an emotional level that I've never experienced with anyone (I've been in three long term relationships in my early 20s). All of that sounds so amazing, yet she ruins it with her ability to get overwhelmed easily, feeling over sensitized often, and complaining about little things that I feel don't need to be vocalized. She grew up in a fairly toxic childhood home with a lot of yelling and fighting with her mom and a drug addict father who was in and out of jail. I empathize with her trauma, but I'm getting pushed to my breaking point.
Here's an example of her emotional instability. I went to pickup some pizza for us at a local spot for dinner. When I brought the pizza back for us to eat, she opened her pizza box and some of the crust around the edges was burnt, but not to the point where it was inedible, just a bit more crisp and black in spots than usual. She immediately got so upset and threw a tantrum about it. I told her it was fine and she could have mine or try to pick off the burnt parts of it and she ended up yelling at me and telling me that it was too burnt to eat it at all and that she was taking it back. We ended up getting into a big argument over it and it totally ruined the entire night.
This is just one of many fights that we've head over similar complaints she's had. I've communicated her behavior to her multiple times and she has apologized but it never seems to get better in the long run. I feel like I'm a fairly positive person in life and tend to view the glass half full, but she drains me at times and it's so unfortunate because I really love her and want to make it work.
Tl;dr. My girlfriend gets overwhelmed easily complains so much but I really love her and want to make it work. Any advice helps.