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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/No-Definition-3584 on 2024-01-23 05:20:53+00:00.
Hi guys. I’m in my last year of university and have been dating my girl for 14 months now. Since about 2 months into our relationship, we have slept together every weekend that we have had the opportunity to (we are long distance when not at school). I absolutely love(d) it. She has also always claimed to love it and even used to tell me how sad she would be when I wasn’t in her bed on Sunday nights.
However, this past weekend she made it clear on Friday night that she had to be up early the next day and that she wanted to sleep alone. I was sad but agreed and admittedly was a little worried. On Saturday she didn’t want to sleep together again, claiming she wanted to just have some alone time which I agreed to once again and it wasn’t really an issue.
She has now recently said that she wants to cut down to only sleeping together maybe once a weekend. This made me extremely sad. In addition to slowly ending some other activities we used to do (cooking together a few times during the week, FaceTiming as often during our school vacations) this is the one that has hurt me the most. I understand about the other things we used to do, as they were sometimes too much for me as well, but sleeping together on weekends was something I looked forward to every week and now that we are doing it as often makes me really saddened and worries me that she’s going to put a stop to it altogether soon.
I want to give her space if she needs but this is really a gut punch and I don’t know how to deal with it. I went back to my house on Friday and Saturday night just sad and a little lonely. She has assured me that it isn’t anything serious and that she absolutely still wants to be in a relationship with me and loves me just the same but sleeping together is just something I really love doing. I miss her and I don’t know what to do.
Is there a compromise to be made here?
TLDR: my girlfriend doesn’t want to sleep together on weekends anymore and i am extremely sad by it.