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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/Less_Rice6342 on 2024-01-23 05:15:02+00:00.
A friend and colleague passed away last year leaving behind 2 kids 14 and 12. Before he passed away he asked me to keep an eye on the kids because he doesn’t trust his family. I am also the will executor. The boy was having difficulties with his mum ( let’s call her Mary ) and was going off the rails. He started hanging out with the wrong crowd and smoking weed. I stepped in and he was really responsive. I helped by getting him to play football with my son ( the same age) , and including him in our family activities. He has turned things around and school work is back in order. I also go to their place often to help with their homework. A common friend of us told me yesterday that Mary confided in his wife and told her I was an amazing dad and that she has feelings for me. She also said she was afraid to say anything in case I decided to withdraw and her kids will miss out. I am married and love my wife. I spoke with my wife and she wants me to cut all contacts. She also refused my offer to stop going to their place and only helping in our house. My friend is also upset that I broke the bro code and got him in trouble by revealing what his wife told him in private. I am conflicted. I don’t want to put stress on my relationship but I also feel sorry for the kid and want to keep my promise to his dad. I have no feelings for Mary and she has never made me feel uncomfortable or done anything inappropriate. Should I listen to my wife? Is her demand reasonable?
Tl;dr. My wife is asking me to stop helping the son of a deceased friend . What should I do?