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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/_luckyyy on 2024-01-23 05:07:37+00:00.
TL:DR
My ex and I have been broken up for 4 years, since then he has been off and on with the kids but has gotten worse over the last 2 years since he’s been in a new relationship. When we were together he was a really good dad and his kids were his top priority.
He doesn’t see them ever and when he has seen them it’s because I asked him and it’s only once in a blue moon for a night or 2. (We have 3 kids together, 9m, 7m, 5m) he will only have our 2 other kids but won’t have our youngest son for some reason, our youngest son barely knows who he is and only has an idea of him.
He doesn’t buy them anything for Christmas, birthdays Easter etc… I think in the time we’ve been broken up he’s brought them one Christmas present each. He doesn’t even call them for their birthdays till last minute.
He doesn’t give me any money for them, I get child support but it’s barely anything. What has offically made me give up is it was our sons 7th birthday the other day and he didn’t call till night time and by the time he rang my son was already asleep.
My sons no longer ask to speak to him and show no interest in him anymore due to his lack of interest in them. What makes this all even more sad is he is with someone that has a son the same age as our youngest, he puts in more effort with that kid than his own.
I’ve blocked him on everything and told him to not contact me again. Am I wrong for doing this?
ETA: his family have never showed any interest in meeting our kids either, the kids grandparents have never even sent them a Christmas card. Their great-grandparents use to send them birthday cards/Christmas cards but they stopped doing that and no longer ask about the kids. So I’ve cut them off too.