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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/awesomecytoplasm on 2024-01-23 04:51:58+00:00.
I am 22F, around 5'0-5'1, and 100 lbs. I just got off the phone with my mother, who called to ask me how my medical school applications are going and if I heard from schools. I let her know that I have a few acceptances, rejections, and more upcoming interviews, nothing new compared to the last time I updated her. Near the end of the phone call, she randomly makes comments about me being too skinny, comparing me to malnourished kids, and saying the wind could blow me over. She says I look like I'm 15 and not my age, saying that my current weight makes me look ugly. She says I looked the best when I was 18, before college. On the phone, I told her I eat 3 meals a day + snacks and asked her if she was projecting. She stayed silent and then said she wanted to head to bed.
The comment that hurt the most was when she asked me how I'm going to be a doctor and take care of sick people when I look like I'm sick myself. Post-grad, I worked hard on loving myself and feeling my best through doing activities I enjoy, such as going to Pilates class and updating my wardrobe/buying clothing that fits my body and style. As cringe as it sounds, I really felt like I had a mini glow-up. I don't even feel like her comments about me are true; my coworkers, other staff, and even patients comment the nicest things about my appearance (from my looks to my outfits, calling me beautiful, saying I look so put together everyday, etc) and at this point, I think they are the reason why my self-esteem isn't completely down the drain. I love my current body, and I don't understand why she keeps putting me down. How can I stop letting her comments get to me in the future?
TL;DR: My mother makes comments about me being too skinny, compares me to malnourished kids, says the wind could blow me over, says I look 15 and not 22. I'm starting med school this july and the comment that hurt the most was when she asked me how I'm going to be a doctor and take care of sick people when I look like I'm sick myself. I love my current body and I don't understand why she keeps putting me down. How can I stop letting her comments get to me?