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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/deathbystereo007 on 2024-01-23 04:14:08+00:00.
Over a decade ago, I was working for a local newspaper as a reporter/writer. While working there, I ended up sharing an office with another woman, who was close in age to me, but was my opposite in many ways. I never thought we would have anything in common, but surprisingly, we quickly became friends & eventually, we both considered ourselves to be best friends.
We spoke every single day for all of those years & I was there for her 24/7. She would call all hours of the day & night - either needing to talk or needing advice. She needed advice for pretty much everything over the course of the friendship - including how to talk to people in certain situations or what to text back if a guy texted her (lots of social stuff because she was from a very sheltered background). I was always happy to help because I've always been pretty good at giving advice & also, because I genuinely cared about her & our friendship.
One random day, while I was talking to her, I noticed she had been acting strangely & pretty much grey rocking me. We hadn't had any arguments or anything even remotely close to an argument - & we almost never had any arguments during our entire friendship.
When I asked her if anything was wrong, she would just say no, even though it was obvious that she just seemed to not want to talk to me. I tried to ask her what was going on many times over those next few weeks, & she never provided any kind of answer. Instead, she blocked me on social media.
I'm just so baffled by this. How can someone you speak to every single day - someone you've never even had an argument with, just decide to block you & end the friendship without so much as a word.
I'm really devastated that our friendship has ended this way. The absolute worst part of the whole thing is not having any answers as to why she decided to ghost me & end our friendship. I feel like if I at least knew what happened, or what her reasons were, then I would feel better. But since I don't know anything, I just keep going over our entire friendship in my mind & trying to make sense of why she would do this. It's horrible to lose a friendship for no reason (or at least not one I'm aware of). It's a very specific type of heartbreak.
Does anyone have any advice on how to deal with this? I'm just struggling to move forward & it almost feels like a death in many ways. I just can't fathom why someone would do this to someone they supposedly cared about.
Tl;dr: ghosted by best friend of more than a decade. Struggling to move forward without answers.