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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/Admirable_Cry1080p on 2024-01-23 02:05:54+00:00.
Mt GF and i have been together for about a year and a half, although we had a break in the relationship we are in a good place now.
I have been in other WLW relationships in the past and i've been cheated on at least once (i suspect another ex cheated too, not 100% sure), and i've developed this almost paranoia that i'll get cheated on. My gf has been faithful as far as i know and reasures me about this but it feels like something i can't shake off my head, i don't think it's related to her, i think it's just how my brain works now.
I've tried to get better and work on myself lately and tried coming up with 'coping mechanisms' and rationalizing my thoughts, for example: 'if i text her less or more it won't stop anything from happening if she wants it to', 'if something happens i probably will find out eventually', trying to let these feelings come and go without paying much attention to them, or distracting myself for as long as i can.
I guess my question would be how to better deal with this, i suffer from anxiety so sometimes it gets really bad and i get really paranoid. She's out at a club with her friends rn and i'm trying to manage these feelings better. Any tips are appreciated and helpful.
TL;DR: How to deal with the anxiety of possibly being cheated on, after it happened to me in the past?