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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/Silly_Billy1287 on 2024-01-23 02:02:00+00:00.
My bf (17m) and I (17f) are still both in highschool , and we've been together for just over a year. At the turn of the new year / school semester (which I suspect adds to it) we just started getting annoyed at eachother at the smallest things and letting them add on to eachother. None of the fights are ever about anything larger than a slight annoyance and we have only gone to bed mad at eachother once. But I dont love this sudden and drastic change at ALL. Im worried hes gonna ruin my lunch period by being in an awful mood again. We both read communication articles and both hate this and I genuinely don't know why this is suddenly happening we used to always get along 100% of the time. When we aren't annoyed at eachother things are still awesome. I feel like we're both part of the problem but maybe mostly me for having high ish standards for a teenager. We both procrastinate almost everything and are a little irresponsible but he has larger things to worry about that he just dosent. I feel like im always getting on him to do his own stuff and he's never asking me to do mine ( I'm managing myself fine). I keep trying to get us to go to the gym and study and better ourselves but it never happens. I have a job and he dosent. We're in the same AP classes yet he's always drowning in missing work. I love him so much and his parents were high school sweethearts and we've talked about getting married and were both genuinely so down to be together forever (naive as hell I know) but I'm the only one putting effort into myself now. He also might have a sleeping disorder or something that's gotten worse but he never really talks about it. We also both come from different backgrounds, im the eldest to a single mother and have SO MANY responsibilities and he dosent really have any (I sound so whiny).I'll stop venting but does anybody have any advice on how we can stop this and be better? I don't want to start unhealthy relationship patterns (I've got a bad history from when I was much younger than I should've been iykwim) but I genuinely don't know what to do. I know it's not really a big deal and we're both kids working stuff out but any tips and advice or appreciated please.
Also: we were eachothers firsts and everything is better when we get to "do it" more often if that changes everything
TLDR: bf and I can't stop fighting after a year and I don't know why.