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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/PopDiddilyBop on 2024-01-23 01:50:13+00:00.
TLDR: Lived with a couple who recently broke up. Friend is having mental health episode and I have to decide weather to move out with her, or stay in the same house as her ex boyfriend who likely has feelings for me.
23f and my friend Abby (22f) have known each other for years. I thought I knew her but the past few months she has completely deteriorated into someone I don't know.
I began living with her and her boyfriend back in August of 2023 after a falling out with my previous roommates. Abby was super generous with me, and helped me get back on my feet. To return the favor I would cook, clean the house everyday, do all the laundry, and wash all the dishes. This began to create some issues between Abby and her boyfriend - since Abby does absolutely nothing around the house. All Abby does is lay down and scroll tik tok, and when asked to contribute she would respond aggressively. She refuses to learn how to cook and is oftentimes unemployed, and despite her boyfriend working 60+ hours a week he is forced to do basically everything. Me being here and treating her boyfriend with basic decency has made him rethink his relationship. Apparently they have been having issues in their relationship for years. But for the past few weeks she has gotten worse. She will come home and start screaming matches, say horrible things to her boyfriend, break dishes, laugh at absolutely nothing, begin sobbing at random periods of time, and accuse me and her boyfriend of hooking up (we never did). She also dropped out of school during her senior year, got more into drinking, and started taking more money from her boyfriend.
A few days ago it came out that Abby had a private account with a bunch of strange men on it - where she would post nudes. Her boyfriend broke up with her on the spot and is giving her a day to move out. She now wants me to move out of the house with her and live with her best friend - who is recklessly promiscuous and hangs around gang bangers. For her entire adult life she has depended entirely on her boyfriend so I am worried about living with her. I know she won't be able to take care of herself - and likely dive head first into partying and hookups. Her boyfriend is allowing me to stay at the house - but she has done so much for me. I am at a loss. She is completely irrational and refuses to be reasoned with.