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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/Secure-Elevator3596 on 2024-01-22 20:53:07+00:00.
Sorry it’s so long 😭 It started when we were on Ft. I was trying to get his attention, but he wasn’t acknowledging me instead he continued to watch tik-tok’s / IG reels. I called for him a few times then I got butt-hurt and hung up. I texted him what are you doing that you can’t even talk to me? He said “I’m waiting to talk bc my dad’s in the kitchen.” Then I said “Least you could’ve done was whisper or text instead of ignoring me.” Honestly I should’ve let it go, but I let my emotions get the best of me. Anyways we’re back on call together and I ask him why can’t he do better/be better about bringing my mood up after we get into an arguments (in general). He said “I already tried once why would I try again and again if the outcome doesn’t change?” I told him because only trying once then counting down from 5 seems like u don’t care enough about my feelings. (Sometimes he gives me a couple seconds to fix myself before he completely stops trying to comfort me. Makes me feel like some sorta kid like wth.) He said “You always find something wrong with me. I’m never good enough and you just implied I’m a bad boyfriend.” I said I never meant to make him feel that way. I tell him things he does sometimes that bothers me like the fact that he doesn’t do as much to make me feel better (Which is the current argument.) He then said “I think you’re lying to yourself about loving me.” I asked why would he say that? He said “Because your love seems conditional. You’re trying to make another version of me so you can love me.” Which isn’t true! I never got into this relationship with him that required conditions for it to happen! Well other than cheating obv but that’s a given! I told I love him for who he is since the beginning til now, but he doesn’t believe me. I just figured as a couple we’d strive to be better for one another. You know if things are kinda affecting our relationship we should be able to make some compromises and grow from them together right? He also said if my love wasn’t conditional I wouldn’t be asking him to be better.
Maybe I’m being insensitive. I don’t know. Can I get any advice or input on this situation? TL;DR!