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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/Limp-Salamander-8185 on 2024-01-21 21:12:27+00:00.
Hi all. This is my first ever post on Reddit, so here it goes. My girlfriend (F22) and I (M21) have been dating for about 1.5 years now.
Since the beginning, the intimate side of our relationship has been fairly slow to move. After around 4 months, she felt comfortable with me touching her breasts and butt (with clothes on), which I respect. A few months later she felt comfortable with me seeing her breasts for real. And recently in the past month or so, we’ve moved on to handjobs, but she is still not comfortable with showing her southern region with me, and I respect that as well. Although I was initially frustrated at the very beginning of our relationship, I’ve quickly come to understand and appreciate her POV with her body and the respect she has for herself. I’ve asked her why she doesn’t feel comfortable with doing these things, and just says she needs time. And she also infers that it’s not a confidence issue.
We’ve had talks about sex as well, but haven’t done it for a few reasons (no safe space, needing to go on birth control even though we wouldn’t do it often, etc).
And also, she says she is waiting until marriage to do oral because it’s something new to explore with her partner and she believes it can be more intimate than sex.
It’s just a little disappointing when you’ve wanted to see your woman’s whole body and do these things with her, but she doesn’t feel comfortable to do them even when I comfort her and try not to talk about these things to give her time.
With all this, I want to see what your thoughts are on her viewpoints of not yet showing me her whole body, and waiting for oral and sex? And if anyone has had similar experiences?
TL;DR: Girlfriend doesn’t want to show whole body, have sex, or do oral. Any one have similar experiences? Thoughts on her opinion?