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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/_consume on 2024-01-22 07:33:06+00:00.
I (25m) have been seeing my gf for almost 3 years at this point. during these years we’ve had our problems like everyone else and that’s fine. it’s not the problems themselves that’s the issue, it’s how she acts when confronted with them.
my partner will try every dirty trick in the book to avoid responsibility. she will twist your words, try and change the blame, use strawmans, general hyperbole to make your views sound absurd or simply gaslight you by pretending she has apologized already.
if these low blows don’t work she will try and make you so angry she can discredit you. constantly interrupting you, repeating the same argument you’ve discredited several times already or just playing stupid like she doesn’t understand the words you’re speaking.
this behavior just won’t stop and she won’t admit to the manipulation. i’ve felt my feelings being invalidated for a long time now.
the reason i’m writing this post is ‘cause im feeling lost. i don’t know what’s left for me to try or if all hope is gone.
TL:DR: gf cannot have open, honest conversations about our hardships and tries to shift the blame and manipulate me instead of working together.