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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/CursedDiaper on 2024-01-22 04:22:36+00:00.
So my and my partner have been together for around 11 months ago and conceived our beautiful baby boy really early in our relationship.
She had a medium sized dog and a cat (I’m a dog person but I’m allergic to cats so I just avoid it and I do fine). I knew that they were part of the package since they were here before I was.
She is a rather impulsive person, I’m not the greatest myself but I at least can admit it and include her on any big decisions. There was many times during the pregnancy that she insisted that we get a kitten or a puppy but I always said no, let’s see how things are when the baby is here. I knew that just having a newborn wouldn’t be easy.
Anyways, in November when I was working in a remote location she called me and said that “there was these bad people that were going to be getting rid of this German shepherd puppy on side the road but they would trade the puppy for an Xbox” and she said that she wanted to foster the dog for 2 weeks until she finds new owners. I told her that I knew she would get attached but she said she wouldn’t. I also reinforced that it would be extremely difficult to take care of our baby along with a puppy. I told her that I can’t control the decisions she makes but I hope that she would make a smart decision… She got the dog.
Now we have our newborn, born late December and the puppy has become a nuisance. The puppy steals the baby’s clothes, barks, urinates and poops literally everywhere, and she does little to prevent it. It also has chewed up most of his pacifiers and bottle nipples. I only found out because I asked her where they all went and she said she didn’t know, but shortly after I saw him chewing on a bottle nipple. She was covering for the puppy and only admitted to it once I caught him in the act. I get extremely irritated because she just lets him get away with everything and all I end up doing is disciplining and cleaning up after the puppy while working full time and doing most of the house tasks.
When I get frustrated she tells me that It’s all in my head and that I shouldn’t let it bother me because I’m allowing myself to get mad.
I don’t know what to do. I feel like this has become extremely disrespectful, she made a decision that I didn’t agree with, and now makes be feel bad for being frustrated and resentful about something I warned her about. Should I leave? She won’t budge on the dog and she says if I do that I’ll be ruining our suns home life because of the dog… Do I just stay for my son? The thought of leaving my baby boy makes be sick to my stomach.
TL:DR: partner got a puppy without agreeing before we had our newborn and now the household has become chaos. Should I leave?