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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/ThrowRA29015678 on 2024-01-22 03:12:18+00:00.
My mom smokes a lot, to the point where she sometimes doesnt have any money for groceries because she spends so much money on cigarettes. When that happens she will usually ask me for money. She also suffers from depression and says that if she doesnt smoke she will get sad and stressed.
Ive always expressed my opinion that i dont like she smokes. The other day she went grocery shopping with my credit card and when i saw she had bought a pack of cigarettes, i got so mad that i began yelling at her. Obviously i felt really bad afterwards, but everytime that i think about how much money she spends on cigarettes when we dont even have enough money for food, it makes me so mad. So mad in fact that it has been affecting our relationship. She has also been diagnosed with pancreatic cancer in the past and she recovered, but it still worries me since smoking is a big risc factor in cancer.
I love my mom, but i also hate her so much for smoking. How do I deal with this? Our family only consists of the two of us and my younger sibling.
TLDR: my mom smokes so much to the point we dont have any money left for food and its been destroying our relationship