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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/fuckit233 on 2024-01-22 00:30:33+00:00.
For some background: She was my best friend, I told her things that, and I mean this literally, only me and her know. Not any other best friends nor my mother whom I'm very close to know what she does about me and the same vice versa. Every time we hung out in a friend group or alone we always had a great time. We worked together in the past, always on the phone/facetime, or with each other in person.
After years of being friends, she expressed she wanted to go on a date and possibly be more than friends. I was very hesitant due to how close we were as friends, I'm not the type that has ever said "I don't want to lose you as a friend" but this was a legitimate fear of mine in this situation. I obliged as she seemed very intent on doing this and I would be lying if I said I hadn't developed romantic feelings for her after all that time. We went out and had a good time (like any other time it seemed) and she even said so after I walked her to her door when I drove her home. That same night I received a snapchat from her of a random man's headboard, who I later found out was one of her old F buddies. After that happened she never spoke a single letter to me again, she wouldn't even look at me when we'd see each other in public. (we live pretty close and used to go to the same gym so it happened a few times)
I thought it was possible she didn't feel anything romantically and only wanted to be friends, so I expressed to her that if that's the case just tell me and it's fine and received nothing in response. Had this been someone I met with the intent of dating I feel as though I would've let it go a long time ago. It doesn't feel like a rejection by a woman I was interested in, it feels like my best friend betrayed me and then wouldn't tell me why or if xyz of my actions caused this. Do I just go to therapy? Any advice on letting people go, friends or romantic relationships? I just feel hurt and like part of me is empty. I don't have another best friend like she used to be to tell this to.
Edit: Any questions feel free to ask as long as they wouldn't give any identity away, I doubt she's on this sub but she does have Reddit so it's possible.
TL;DR Best friend (18F) of multiple years showed romantic interest, at first I (19M) was hesitant but, we went on a date, sent me a photo of her in another man's bed, and never spoke a single word to me since. How do I get over her? More so how do I get over losing a best friend?