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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/FranciscoDAnconia85 on 2024-01-21 19:48:19+00:00.
My (38M) fiancée (29F) shocked me the other day by expressing concerns that our future children would be likely to also suffer from Crohn’s Disease, as I have for years. Apparently she spoke to her parents and they are very much against the idea of our marriage on account of my condition.
I am seriously conflicted now. I don’t even know if I can (or should) even try to work this out with her and her family. I feel judged for something that I cannot control.
For background, we have been together for 10 months and we recently got engaged over Christmas. She is Chinese and I am American of German descent. I have been diagnosed with inflammatory bowl diseases since I was 19. I take medication and my symptoms are under control most of the time.
TL;DR Fiancée’s parents don’t want us to get married for fear that our future children will inherit my condition. Don’t know what to do.