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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/Better-Original-478 on 2024-01-21 21:17:39+00:00.
A little background on how we started dating:
Around mid last year, i posted in a gaming subreddit looking for a duo or someone to play with. He approached me thinking i was a guy and made fun of my ingame name saying it's girly. After a while when we got in a call and he found out i was actually a girl. He was skeptical at first but we clicked really well and we opened up to each other more and more. Not long after we developed feelings and started dating. Few months later he flew in to see me and we had an amazing together in person as much we had online. We've been together ever since. We're still in a long distance relationship and we plan to meet again and even moving together.
So this brings me to my issue. My boyfriend keeps spoiling me, buying me stuff, ordering food to my place, and makes me get an uber every single time even though it's just a 10min walk. He keeps buying my favorite snacks and sweets along with coffees and boba from my favorite places. He also gave me one of his bank cards so i can use it and withdraw money whenever i need or want. He takes care of the bills and expenses. Recently there's been a new collection of plushies i really want and he's basically forcing me to buy them. Whenever i ask for something hoping he'd say no or it would be too expensive he says yes before even knowing the price of whatever i want to get to the point where it gets frustrating. He never says no and he's always to beat the spending record of the previous month by spending more money each month.
Usually i'm more reserved and always trying to save money and he's the exact opposite. And i'm not used to the princess treatments. I always feel bad whenever i or someone else spends money on me.
I always say NO whenever he wants to buy something or whenever i have a craving and he wants to satisfy it but he always ask me if i want to get those when i am vulnerable which is right after i wake up and still not fully awake or when i'm focused on something else and i give an automatic response which is " YES " and i can't go back on my word and he knows that and takes advantage of it.
TLDR; My boyfriend spoils me and i feel guilty.
Please tell me how to proceed with this situation because it's genuinely frustrating sometimes and he can always trick me into saying "yes" or he's very convincing.
Thank you.