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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/Urgenthelpakhi on 2024-01-21 19:18:18+00:00.
I was talking to a guy on a dating app. I'm 27F, and he's 26M, with a 6-7 months age gap between us. I initially asked him age-related questions, and he seemed fine with it, saying his parents wouldn't have an issue either.
We had a great conversation for 3 days, exchanged lengthy paragraphs, and really got to understand each other. He then asked for my detailed bio-data to introduce me to his parents, explaining it's part of a process he's following. I was okay with it and asked him to share his details as well.
After that, our conversations started to wander, and the topic of marriage wasn't discussed as much. Amidst this, he claimed to be very busy for a week, replying late, and one day, he just stopped messaging. Unable to resist, I messaged him before bedtime, “perhaps you’re still at the office, wherever the night takes you, have a goodnight”, to which he replied that he was at home with people over. I knew he was lying but didn't say anything. I just wished him a good time, and he didn't message after that.
He later sent a request on Instagram, and I started posting attractive pictures on my stories, hoping he'd take notice🙈. But he only viewed the stories, he didn’t like them. Now, he just messaged, apologizing for not talking and mentioning he felt good after our last week's conversation but needs time to think.
Please, please tell me what should I reply to him? Should I play it cool or act like I didn't notice? I'm thinking of saying, "Oh, I thought you were giving time to other girls, that's why you forgot to message me. Anyway, yes, I've started talking to someone else, and things are going great initially. Let's see how it goes."
Or should I go with, "It's okay; take your time. Talk to your parents and let me know what you need." I've heard men want what they can't have, so I want my message to make him think positively about me without appearing too desperate. Please help, and examples would be appreciated! Please be kind.
Tl;dr - this guy was super into me and then completely ghosted me, now he just texted again! Help me text him back!