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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/rmjagonshi2448 on 2024-01-21 18:04:07+00:00.
My(32) partner(32M) is angry that I seem to have no ambitions and am ok with a simple life. My partner and I met in grad school. We were both in the same department and hit it off almost instantly. I was hesitant at fist since I had not been in a relationship before and had no real expectations that I ever would. Fast forwards and we have been together for 9 years and we are both graduated with Masters degrees in Geology. I struggled to find a job in my field and finally accepted ANY job to pay the bills. I got a job at an anatomic pathology medical lab and have been working there for almost 3 years.
My partner also had trouble finding a job but for different reasons. He started his own business thats not going great. He wants to get his own land to get away from the city but hes not making enough fast enough. And hes not willing to start a new chapter in our lives until my student debits are paid in full.
Hes recently been lashing out that "no one in this family seems to want to do anything worthwhile with their lives". (We are currently living with his parents because we cant afford rent in our area) Both his parent are retired and are not pursuing any of their past hobbies, instead they are playing mobile games, reading books and playing with the cat. I have stopped writing. I dont have a lot of mental energy after I get home from my job and much of my time at hime is spent doing home care activities (laundry, dishes, cooking, cleaning, shopping etc). And I dont want a hand in my partners business because I have less knowledge and skill than he does. But he keeps pushing me to "do something" that he can help with or monetize. Im already working 10 hours days and stressing about my day job and a side hussle is not a life I want.
Nearly all of our conversations center around finances and venture ideas and what I can do to make money. Or he's talking about what he CANT do due to the oversaturated market or liability laws or hacking attempts or something else that's bothering him.
Ive stopped talking about myself or my work as it seems to make him angry. He takes everything I say as criticism or complaining.
Im soo tired reddit. I love him dearly, but I cant help with this, not without losing everything I am and want in life to the neverending grind. What do I do?
TL/DR: Partner has own business and wants me to go in as partner in side hussle. I work a stressful day job and am ok with a simple life. What do I do?