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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/Firsttimemom111 on 2024-01-21 16:55:13+00:00.
Please be nice, I’m clearly in a difficult situation!
7 years in.. we have a 2 year old..
he is a wonderful man who helps with cooking cleaning and is a patient, participative dad. He’s extremely smart, responsible, financially stable, a great listener, a great communicator (avoidant mostly but when we do talk, he is always calm), we look great together, I LOVE his friends and family and culture.
The other side of this….
We come from different cultures and he is older than me.
I truly desire someone that feels like a best friend. We really do not have the same interests. We don’t really connect spiritually, but in his defense I tend to be a bit extreme with some of my yoga/energy practices, but he doesn’t even try. Sexually, we have never aligned - I’ve always ignored this part since he’s such an amazing man. But I’m also very very sexual and find myself suppressing a large part of me. To me, the spiritual and sexual aspects are very important as a connection with a partner. He has entertained women behind my back but I do not believe he every physically cheated.
Ever since we began dating I felt as if something was missing. He’s the first stable man I’ve been with so automatically I blamed that “something missing” on my chaotic past. Despite all of the self help/therapy I’ve done, the feeling has not evolved. At this point, I’m wondering if it’s intuition… we have had so many conversations so he is very aware of my hesitancies but has not done anything to try and improve it.
I love him so much but I know I’m capable of connecting deeper.
Am I crazy to leave such a wonderful man though ? 😔
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TL;DR Has anyone left a wonderful man and NOT regretted it?