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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/Geofftheape on 2024-01-21 13:01:19+00:00.
So l've been with my girlfriend for just over 2 years, he ex husband was a coke head and ended up going to jail for 3 years, as he was 16 times over the driving limit, when he got pulled up on COCAINE The marriage was on the rocks a year, or, so before they split up, he basically filtered all their savings awsy sniffing drugs and she only found out before it was too late and the money had gone They split up, she moved out and he went to jail, l understood the situation and ran with it and it's not been an issue until now
Now, the stipulation from his parole officer is that he has to be supervised, or in another adults company while he sees the kids for a period of time, which is unknown until the parole officer is happy he us not using drugs again, apparently he's turned a corner and with good behaviour it could be 2-3 months where he doesn't have to be accompanied by an adult, he has no relatives or friends that live near the kids and his main familiar is is Scotland and his kids are 250 miles away from Scotland if he moved up there, so it makes sense to be done where near ATM he's in a hotel near by So the only person who can accompany him until he's been a good boy is my girlfriend his ex
So he came out on Thursday and saw his kids Friday, which I didn't know about, my girlfriend rang me today and we got talking and as I'm at work, 1 asked her what she was doing today, she said she s going to ask her ex if he wants to go for a walk, so I said that's a bit weird, then she said it s with he kids, I told her l'm not happy with the situation but understand it, on Friday he went to her house and had a Chineese with the kids, she wasn't going to tell me about him going to the house and it and it was only until I asked a few questions, I manage to get it out of her that he had a Chineese with the kids and she said she didn't sit with them, I told her the situation is weird, I told her I dint think he should be at hers PEROID and she should accommodate him some v re else, it's her daughters birthday next week and they are all going out together for the day, for a hour or so yes but all day, l'm not sure about that.
I'm unhappy with the situation, I do get whats happening, l've not shouted or lost my temper, I just find it weird that they are spending all that time together and not just limited time to accommodate the kids. M12 F14 She's told me she would rather be ironing but he want to see the kids, but am I overreacting being upset and curious Thoughts on what to do appreciate, personally I feel like telling her we need a break until it sorts itself out, if it doesn't then it was the right decision
TLDR exs husband has come around and not sure what time do