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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/redditor_12375 on 2024-01-21 07:57:21+00:00.
My girlfriend(19F) and I (19M) Have been together for a year and a half. Usually we are fine but she becomes extremely mean and hurtful to me on her period. I understand Women go through struggles us men don’t and we have to be extra caring and patient but i wanna know what the limit is to us being patient and understanding. My girlfriend constantly tries picking fights with me on her period and when i don’t give in she gets even more mad. I don’t understand it. For instance my friends and i have been planning a trip for months and i asked my girlfriend for permission to go multiple times and she said it was cool for me to go. As I was planning the trip I even let her pick the date of the trip so it could be convenient for her on a day that i’d least likely be able to see her so i wouldn’t lose a day of hanging out with her. The day before the trip (it was her time of month)she begins getting mad at me for going on the trip even tho i asked her multiple times if she was okay with it. I couldn’t obviously cancel at that moment because everyone paid money for the trip and was depending on me to drive them in my moms SUV. She ignored me the entire 2 days of the trip and once I got back began fighting with me for going saying she didn’t want me to go and accusing me of cheating even tho I was texting and calling her to update her on the entire trip to no avail. When i was trying to talk to her about it she kept yelling but I was trying to talk in a calm voice as to not increase the tension and she got even more mad at me because i was being “condescending and was acting like a therapist” even tho i was just trying to understand her and not feed into fighting. In another instance she got mad at me because i wouldn’t argue back with her. Is it normal for women to be like this during their time of month? should i just be patient with her? When i tell her how i feel about she just plays it off calling me less of a man because i don’t just take the things she says to me.
TL;DR: My girlfriend gets extremely mean to me on her period and tries starting fights for almost anything I do. Is this normal because it’s her time of the month?